Getting to Know Someone
True or False: You can really know someone after one week.
False; You would not be able to get to know what kind of person is after only one week.
List 3 things someone might do if they are not listening.
sleeping, not making eye contact, on their phone, looking the other direction, doing something else, not responding, not asking questions, etc.
List some ways you can communicate.
verbally, physically (body language), digitally (text, call, email)
True or False: Maintaining independence and taking alone time is a healthy relationship strategy.
True; It is important to maintain your individuality when you are in a relationship.
Should you focus on the problem or the person?
problem
What are 3 things you should get to know about someone before dating?
values, hobbies, likes/dislikes, communication style, boundaries, love language, goals, what a relationship looks like to them, personality traits, etc.
What is body language?
This is a form of physical communication. (examples: crossing arms, nodding, eye contact, etc.)
List 2 unhealthy ways of communicating.
yelling, fighting, arguing, throwing things, gossiping, using profanity, blaming, calling names, etc.
Why is privacy important?
DOUBLE JEOPARDY
Privacy maintains individuality, autonomy, and can keep you safe.
What is a resolution?
This is a solution, compromise, or agreement to stop a conflict.
This is when a person intentionally overwhelms someone with extreme displays of affection and attention in order to manipulate or control them.
love bombing
True or False: You should listen to what someone has to say even if you disagree.
True
Why is it important to find common ground?
It helps to further a conversation and get to know someone.
What is consent?
This is agreeing to something at your own will. This does not include being manipulated to say yes to something you are not comfortable with. You can change your mind.
This is when you take a break and walk away to calm down and think before attempted to resolve a conflict.
take a time out
What is conditional love?
This is when someone only provides love if a certain thing is met. (example: only showing love to someone when they give you gifts)
What can you do to show you are listening?
make eye contact, nod, ask questions, reflect, open body language, facing person, etc.
This is when you stand up for yourself in a positive, healthy manner.
assertiveness
Name 2 types of boundaries.
True or False: It is okay to move on from a conflict without coming to a resolution.
True; Some minor conflicts do not impact the relationship negatively, so it is okay to move on. You can "agree to disagree."
How long should you take to get to know someone before dating them?
DOUBLE JEOPARDY
about 3-6 months
What is reflective listening?
What is an "I" statement?
"I" statements are when you start a sentence with "I" to communicate your feelings, needs, or concerns without placing blame on the other person.
How can you establish boundaries with someone.
COMMUNICATE; People cannot read your mind, so if something bothers you, it is important to let them know.
This is when you "meet in the middle" to resolve a conflict.
compromise