Boundaries
True or False: When you have a crush on someone you should jump on the relationship train immediately?
False - get to know them, do your values align with theirs, do you like how they talk to you/others.
Green or Red Flad: Partner tracks your location, but it is only because they worry about me.
Red Flag - everyone is entitled to their privacy. It doesn't mean someone is hiding things.
What is the best way to break up with someone?
Be direct - avoid managing their emotions by thinking you know how they are going to respond.
Does fighting via text work?
If you feel a fight coming on get on the phone or try to see them in person. Many thoughts/feelings are lost in translation via text.
Describe Intent vs impact
Intent: What we mean to do or the purpose of our actions or communication
Impact: How your actions/words make actually make another person feel or experience.
What should you do if you don't like someone back?
Be kind & respectful when turning them down.
Green or Red Flag: You are able to communicate your feelings without fear or retribution or retaliation.
Green flag - feeling safe to share how you're feeling from happy to sad is a key ingredient in healthy relationships.
True or False: Ghosting is the best way to handle a break up.
False - avoid ghosting and be honest with kindness.
True or false: you only need texting in a relationship
False - Creating balance in how you communicate is important to build a relationship beyond the phone.
True or False: Active listening is playing on your phone while someone is talking to you.
False: Listening with no distractions. Making eye contact, asking follow-up questions, summarizing what they said for understanding.
True or False: If someone doesn't like you back will you always feel upset?
False - it will suck of course, but it is only a temporary feeling.
Green or Red flag: My partner wants to hang out with me 24/7 they love me so much.
True or False: You should avoid bashing them on social media and create space.
True - While break ups are no fun the how and why aren't other people's business and when we avoid passive aggressive behaviors we create better relationships.
False - If someone doesn't text back right away, understand we all have our own lives, and they will respond when able.
Name the 4 types of communication?
Passive
Aggressive
Passive-Aggressive
Assertive
When someone says yes one day to something and no the next - what does that mean?
It means the answer is now NO. Respect the no and do not try and convince them to change their mind.
Green or Red Flag: Hot or cold behavior where they are attentive one day and distant the next.
Red Flag - While we all have bad days and it is important to communicate that information vs expecting our partners to read our minds or to fix how we are feeling.
True or False: The feelings of a break up are permanent?
False - of course they suck, but those feelings will reduce and ease up as time passes.
True or False: You always know 100% of the time what someone means via text.
False: Often times we can't always tell tone via text. Be mindful of what you write, be curious if you are confused, and ask follow up questions.
What is an 'I' statement?
A form of non-defensive communication that removes the blame.
I feel angry when you say you're going to be here at a certain time, and you don't show up. I need you to communicate when plans change please.
Name 3 different types of boundaries in relationships?
Physical
Emotional
Intellectual
Material
Sexual
Time
Green or Red Flag: They can self sooth, take responsiblity for their actions, and openly discuss their feelings.
Green Flag - When our partners can take accountability for their own actions and in how they respond to your feelings it creates safety and understanding.
What should you do post break up?
Lean on friends for support not to tear the other person down.
Allow for space before jumping into the next relationship/situationship.
Should you ask or send inappropriate photos?
No - sending or asking for these can have long term consequences.
True or False: There should never be any conflict in your relationships.
False - conflict is going to happen. Your feelings are valid and so are the other person's. Healthy conflict can create better foundations to buildon.