Communication
What does an “I” statement usually communicate?
A. What the other person did wrong
B. The speaker’s own feelings and experiences
C. Who "wins" the argument
D. The speaker's personal opinion
B
Falsely attributing your own unacceptable feelings or impulses onto someone else
Projection
Name at least 3 traits of a healthy relationship
Shared values
Effective communication
Trustworthy
Loyalty
Emotional availability
Conflict management skills
Healthy boundaries
Respectful
Fairness
When someone insists you are remembering events or facts incorrectly, making you question your sanity
Gaslighting
Reaching an agreement where both sides make adjustments to meet in the middle is known by this term.
Compromise
Communication questions that require more than a simple "yes" or "no" answer, encouraging fuller elaboration, are described as this
Open ended questions
Attacking a partner's character or personality rather than addressing a specific behavior
Criticism
Having this outside of your romantic partnership—including friends, hobbies, and personal goals—is crucial for maintaining a balanced life.
Independence/Autonomy
Showering a new partner with grand gestures, declarations of devotion, and constant contact very early on to gain influence is known as this
Love bombing
This term describes setting clear personal limits on what you are comfortable with regarding your time, space, and energy.
Boundaries
What does emotional validation involve?
A. Agreeing that someone else’s perspective is correct
B. Acknowledging their feelings make sense
C. Saying you’re wrong and they’re right
D. Taking responsibility for their feelings
B
Deflecting blame, making excuses, or playing the innocent victim in response to feedback
Defensiveness
This fundamental quality means honoring each other's opinions, values, and individuality, even when you disagree
Mutual respect
This unhealthy pattern occurs when one person relies excessively on another for emotional validation and identity, often enabling toxic behavior
Codependency
What is an appropriate way to apologize
A. "I'm sorry you felt that way"
B. "I didn't mean to hurt you"
C. "It was just a joke"
D. "I'm sorry I hurt you. I take full accountability for my actions"
D
This practice involves giving your full attention to a speaker, rephrasing what you heard, and validating their emotions without interrupting.
Active listening
What is “stonewalling” in the context of relationship conflict?
A. Refusing to engage in or shutting down during an interaction
B. Asking for clarification
C. Taking responsibility for a mistake
D. Changing one's opinion
A
When a partner can express genuine regret, take responsibility for a mistake, and change their behavior, they are demonstrating this key quality
Accountability
This term refers to an excessive level of possessiveness or anxiety about a partner spending time with others
Jealousy/Controlling behavior
This process involves letting go of resentment or the desire for revenge toward someone who has wronged you
Forgiveness
This style of communication directly states thoughts and feelings in an honest, firm, and respectful way without being pushy or passive
Assertive communication
Protecting someone from the natural consequences of their unhealthy or destructive actions is known by this term
Enabling
This term describes a person's ability to recognize, understand, and regulate their own emotions
Emotional intelligence
When you become emotionally attached to someone who hurts you because they also give you moments of love, kindness, or comfort that make it hard to leave.
Trauma bond
Name 1 healthy strategy you can use when having conflict with someone else
Taking a time out/break
Using "I" statements
Assertive communication
Talking when both have cooled down