Healthy/Unhealthy/Abusive
A relationship that has:
Trust, love, mutual respect, and communication is _________
HEALTHY
You and your partner have been dating for two weeks when they ask you to share your facebook and email passwords "just in case you are ever locked out."
Red Flag
In your own words, describe what a healthy relationship looks like.
:)
Is having "respect for each other's privacy" healthy, unhealthy, or abusive?
HEALTHY
True or False:
Physical abuse is the only way somebody can be hurt in a relationship.
False.
1 in 3 adolescents in the U.S. is the victim of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse from a dating partner
An _______ relationship includes the same characteristics of an unhealthy relationship but is more extreme and frequent.
Abusive
You have told your friend that you want to learn to play guitar, and they say "You should do it!"
Green Light
Explain how this scenario is abusive:
Jason invited several of his friends and his girlfriend, Megan, to his house to watch movies on Friday night. Jason asked Megan if she would put out some chips and drinks for everyone. She said that she didn’t mind. When Jason’s friends arrived, they all sat down to watch movies.
When someone finished a drink or when the bowl of chips was empty, Jason would tell Megan to go to the kitchen for refills. When this happened for the third time, Megan said that she wouldn’t be their waitress. She wanted to watch the movie, and they could help themselves to the food in the kitchen if they wanted it.
Jason ordered Megan to get his friends’ drinks again, got angry when she refused, and slapped her across the face. Jason’s friends had seen this same argument many times before.
Abusive because Jason is controlling what Megan is doing. It’s abusive because there is physical harm and this is frequently occurring.
Is it healthy, unhealthy, or abusive?
Extreme jealousy
Unhealthy
Fill in a number: You should be best friends with somebody _______ months after meeting them.
There is no right answer. Some relationships may never evolve to friendship. Some may take many years.
A relationships that:
Constantly puts you down, has extreme jealousy, temper, and/or physically hurts you is _________
ABUSIVE
Your dating partner has not introduced you to their family even though you have been dating for three months.
Green light
Explain how this scenario is healthy:
Bella and Noah have been dating for a few weeks. Noah likes Bella, but he isn’t in love with her. He wants to date another girl in his history class.
When he tells Bella that he wants to break up, she gets angry. Then she starts crying.
Noah is uncomfortable. He doesn’t know what to say, but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with Bella anymore.
Even though it is difficult and they don’t agree on something, they are communicating with each other
Someone who is criticized and put down by a partner is in an __________ relationship.
Unhealthy
True or False:
1 out of 5 who have been physically abused continue to date their partner
FALSE
(4 out of 5 continue to date their partner)
A relationship that has:
Bullying, dishonesty, and possessiveness is ___________.
UNHEALTHY
You ask your friend to go to the mall with you, and they say "Not right now." You respond by saying, "Oh, okay. Maybe tomorrow?"
Green Light
Explain how this scenario is unhealthy:
Jessica and Samantha have been best friends for two years. They love having lunch together in the cafeteria and always meet during recess. They’ve always told each other everything that goes on in their lives.
Another girl, Alison, is in the same core class with Jessica and they become really close friends. Jessica starts spending more time with Alison and even eats lunch with her some days. Samantha gets really upset, since Samantha thinks that Alison is fake.
Samantha posts some shade on Instagram about Jessica. Jessica then posts on Instagram an embarrassing picture of Samantha to get back at her.
Unhealthy relationships may include:
Bullying, isolation, secrets, possessiveness, and harassment.
Name 2 warning sign of an Abusive relationship.
Checking your cell phone, email or social media accounts without permission. Constantly putting you down. Extreme jealousy. Explosive temper. Isolating you from family or friends. Mood swings. Physically hurting you in any way. Possessiveness. Telling you what to do or what to wear
True or False:
Only 33% of youth involved in a violent relationship ever told anyone about the abuse
TRUE
Name 3 things a partner may do in an "unhealthy relationship"
●Put you down
●Criticize you, your friends, or your family
●Decide who you can and can’t hang out with
●Force you to do things you don’t want to do
●Go back on promises
●Force you to share your passwords to email or social media
●Grab, push, hit, or physically hurt you
Name 5 strategies you can use if you suspect somebody you know might be in an unhealthy relationship based on possible red flags.
1) Ask a trusted adult for help
2) Say Stop
3) Walk away
4) Share your feelings with your friend
5) Set healthy boundaries
Tyrone bought Nicole an iTunes gift card for her birthday. Nicole opened the gift and asked where the rest of her presents were. Nicole became angry and started yelling at Tyrone screaming she expected more than a stupid gift card for her birthday and she threw the gift across the room.
Abusive: Guys can be hurt by their girlfriend's abusive behaviors too.
Who could be involved in an unhealthy relationship?
Anybody!
Healthy relationships just happen naturally.
False
All relationships take time and work to develop.