Healthy or Unhealthy
TRUE or FALSE
The key elements of a healthy relationship are...
Respect
Support
Compromise
Boundaries
Openness
TRUE!
These are all elements of a healthy relationship that helps us interact and get along with others.
TRUE or FALSE
If we are upset at our friend and don't know what to say to them face-to-face, we should message them instead.
FALSE
You cannot tell what somebody's tone or attitude is online. Talking face-to-face is the best way to go!
TRUE or FALSE
When you have a problem with somebody, you should always talk to your other friends about it first so that you can get them on your side.
FALSE!
It's important to go to that person directly. Sometimes we have the urge to talk to somebody else behind their back or to avoid the problem. Both of these are not healthy ways of communicating and can make the problem bigger!
Instead, talk face-to-face privately when the time is right (sometimes you or your friend needs time to cool off first and that it completely okay!)
What might an unhealthy relationship look like?
An unhealthy relationship might look like...
- When you don't respect the other person (name-call, unkind comments)
- When you are unsupportive of your friend's decisions or successes
- When you don't want to compromise with the other person
- When you are close-minded (don't want to listen to the other person's idea if it's different from yours"
You have a problem with a friend and you want to talk to them about it. When is the best time to talk to them about the problem?
a.) In front of your group of friends
b.) When you are alone and have privacy
c.) In the middle of class
d.) Don't talk to them at all, because you don't want to be the first one to bring it up
b.) When you are alone and have privacy
Find a good time to share... we might upset or embarrass our friends and make the problem even bigger!
Abby feels like her best friend isn't listening or paying attention to her. The last few times Abby has invited Trisha over, Trisha has either said that she's busy or didn't respond. Abby figures that Trisha just doesn't want to be friends with her anymore.
What "I" statement could Abby use to talk to Trisha?
"I feel hurt when you ignore my texts or say that you're busy"
"I feel sad when you ignore my texts or say that you're busy"
Why is it important to have healthy relationships with others?
We wouldn't be able to get along with others.
Others might not want to be friends with us and we might feel "left out" if we don't show respect, give people space, and compromise with others.
Kim is being teased by her friend, Tia. You start to notice that Kim is looking down, not saying anything, and crossing her arms. Kim isn't saying anything, but how do you know that she might be feeling uncomfortable?
Is she communicating verbally or nonverbally?
Her body language communicates that she is feeling uncomfortable. She is communicating NONVERBALLY.
People use NONVERBAL cues all the time, especially when they don't know what to say!
Jennifer posted a picture of Amanda without her permission. Amanda is upset and doesn't know what to do.
What can Amanda do or say?
Amanda can:
- Talk face-to-face with Jennifer
- Use an "I" statement
- Go to an adult for help
HEALTHY or UNHEALTHY:
You and your best friend spend a lot of time together at school. After school, your best friend messages you constantly and tells you that they feel hurt when you don't answer them. Your best friend tells you that if you are really their friend, you would be able to respond right away and all the time.
We need to be able to respect other people's space. It is normal and healthy to be able to spend time away from each other.
Peter tries being honest with his friend because he knows that it's important to tell the whole truth when communicating with others.
He tells his friend: "I think you're a liar and nobody likes you."
Is this an appropriate or inappropriate way of communicating honestly? Explain.
This is an inappropriate way of communicating honestly.
While it is important to be honest, we must also use kind words. When we use unkind words, we make the problem bigger!
Jada thinks that she heard Gabby talk about her behind her back with another classmate during recess. Jada is confused and hurt because she thought that Gabby was a good friend.
What can Jada do or say?
What "I" statement could she use and what "solution" could she suggest?
Jada can:
- Talk to Gaby face-to-face. It might have been a misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up.
"I feel upset and hurt when you talk about me behind my back. If you have a problem with me, could you come and talk to me instead so that we can work it out?"
HEALTHY or UNHEALTHY:
Laura decides that she wants to try talking and hanging out with other people. She starts hanging out with other people more and her best friend, Kylie, starts to feel left out.
It's HEALTHY to want to hang out with different people sometimes, but it is Laura's responsibility to COMMUNICATE with Kylie. Kylie might be feeling left out and hurt because Laura started hanging out with other people without saying anything.
What is an "I" statement?
What is an example of an "I" statement?
An "I" statement is a way for us to communicate our feelings without blaming the other person.
"I feel upset when you take my things without asking"
Always follow-up with a solution!
"Next time, could you ask instead of just taking it?"