Styles of Communication
How many styles of communication are there?
4
3
"Do you have a problem with me?"
Ineffective
Spending time together in pro social activities and enjoy similar intrests
Companionship
What are risky thoughts?
Thoughts that can threaten your effort for change
This style uses loud and demanding voices, staring down the person you are talking to, and/or clenching hands.
Aggressive Communication
What are the elements of communication?
Talking, Listening, & Body Language.
"Can we talk about how that made you feel?"
Effective
Feeling a sense of belonging in a healthy relationship provides a rewarding feeling of identity, fellowship, and comfort.
Connectedness
What are potential consequences for risky thoughts?
Fights, parole violation, kicked out of home, ending a relationship, loss of custody, etc.
This style is indirect while trying to get people to do what you want, can be confusing, dishonest, and hurtful, and/or hiding the truth.
Passive-Aggressive Communication
What is "the words that you select influence the effectiveness of your communication"?
"It is your fault I was late to work because you didn't wake me up!"
Ineffective
This is when you are there for each other in both the good and bad times.
Emotional Support
Scenerio: My friend wants to hang out at the bar like old times with some usuals while im on parole
Risky
This style apologizes a lot without expressing feelings or needs. This person would fidget while speaking, or look away from the listener.
Passive Communication
What is "give full attention to what the person is saying"?
Listening
"When you did not include me in the plans, my feelings were hurt"
Effective
Receiving and giving advice about practical matters such as finding a job, a place to live or improving your life.
Sharing Helpful Information
How do you handle risky behavior?
Say no, walk away, coping mechanisms, change plans to better help the situation, etc.
This style uses direct, clear, open and honest expressions. Theyn use a voice that is firm but respectful. Can make eye contact without staring.
Assertive Communication
Communication done by your gestures, posture, and expression.
Body Language
"Look at me again and i''ll break your face"
Ineffective
This helps you change and grow in positive ways, shows respect for the other person, and improves the quality of the relationship.
Honest Feedback
Scenerio: You are at a party with drugs. Everyone is already pretty high and keep encouraging you to join in on the fun. You really want to but you know you are on parole. What do you do?
say no, walk away, go home, explain you can have fun without drugs.