Flags
Define red flag
When something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable, worried, sad, or anxious
This crucial factor in relationships is built through honesty, reliability, and consistent actions. What is it?
Open communication
True or false - Whatever you post is not permanent.
False - everything you post is forever on the internet. Even when you delete a post or a picture, it is not really deleted.
What does consent mean?
It means gaining permission without assuming things about your partner. It means communication about everything in the relationship.
Your partner/friend makes you feel like every problem in your relationship is always your fault. What type of relationship is this?
unhealthy relationship
What are some signs of emotional manipulation in a relationship? name at least 3
Name 4 characteristics of health relationships
* open communication
* trust
* curiosity
* time a part
*playfulness
*team work
Never share your _____________ with someone else because they can access your account and use it to cyberbully others.
Password
True or False. Once consent is given, it can never be taken back.
False! Consent can always be revoked (taken back) if someone is uncomfortable. Healthy relationships mean respecting someone's boundaries.
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
Name 3 green flags that indicate a healthy relationship
Team work
Encouragement
Trust
Healthy boundaries
Mutual respect
individuality
Name 7 characteristics of unhealthy relationships.
What is Cyber bullying?
Being rude or cruel to others by posting harmful writing or engaging in forms of social bullying using the Internet.
True or false. The way I dress, if I flirt, or accept attention from someone means they can violate my boundaries.
False! My clothing or anything else about me is not an invitation to violate my boundaries. My consent is communicated with the word "yes."
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
What are common red flags? name 4
Common red flags include love bombing, abuse of any kind, obsession, jealousy, pressure, lying, and manipulation
These cues indicate an unhealthy relationship and include constant criticism, disrespect, and disregard for boundaries. Name at least 4
gaslighting
Insults/ put downs
sharing images online and with others
violence (emotional, physical, mental and spiritual)
Doesn't respect boundaries
Yelling
What are Cyber threats?
Electronically used words that generally raise concerns that the person may intend to do harm.
Your partner or friend suggests that you "owe them" because you are dating them. They want to take steps that you are uncomfortable with. Is this respect for consent?
No! This is a type of manipulation. You don't owe your partner anything. Healthy relationships are based on respect and what makes both people feel comfortable.
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
What are the 3 flags that we learned today? Explain what they mean
Red flag: When something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable, worried, sad, or anxious
Yellow flag: When things make you feel uneasy or curious where you feel like you need to find out more information.
Green flag: When you feel safe, supported and secure. There is mutual respect and trust. You want what is best for each other.
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight? Name at least 3
Making threats
giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!)
accusing without listening
not being willing to apologize or take the blame
getting physical with your partner/friend
Q.1 You want to post a picture to social media. You look good but your friend does not like the way they look in the picture and does not want it posted. Would you post it or not? Explain your reason
Don't post the picture
If you are tickling your friend or partner and they are laughing but say "no" or "stop" out loud, you can continue to tickle them because they are laughing
NO! Even though they are laughing they are very clearly taking back consent by saying "no" or "stop" out loud
What are two things that will help you when you are trying to solve a conflict
Listening and treating everyone with respect