Communication
What is one way to ensure that you and your partner/friend/family member are communicating effectively?
Be honest, listen, ask questions
Your partner/friend gets angry when you talk to your family. What type of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
Is conflict the same thing as fighting?
No.
What type of boundary could possibly be violated in this moment?
You want to go to a movie tonight with your friend/partner/family member. They are usually late for things and the movie starts at 5:00pm. You say "I would appreciate it if you can let me know if you will be running late."
Time
What are some indicators/qualities of healthy relationships?
Respect, support, healthy communication, healthy boundaries trust, honesty, communication, etc.
What type of statements should you use to express how you feel about something?
Using "I" statements
Your partner/friend encourages you to pursue your dreams. What type of relationship is this?
Healthy Relationship
What is one unhealthy way to engage in conflict?
Yelling, shouting, blaming, or hitting
These are all examples of violations of what boundary?
Standing too close to a person without their permission. Touching a person without their permission. Getting into a person's belongings and living space (wallet, purse, mail, phone, closet, etc.) without their permission.
Physical
Who can be in an unhealthy relationship?
Anyone
What is something you should notice or pay attention to (other than words) when having a conversation with your partner/friend/family member?
Nonverbal Language (body language), tone, etc.
Your partner/friend supports your interests and passions by attending events that you are involved in (ex: musical concerts, sporting events, or community service events). What kind of relationship is this?
Healthy Relationship
What are some ways you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
The following may all be example of violating what boundary?
They may put their needs above yours without consideration. They may habitually criticize and invalidate your feelings. They might engage in emotional “dumping,” which includes shaming or humiliating you. Toxic individuals often guilt-trip and manipulate you to get their way.
Emotional/Internal
Is it healthy to be separately involved in activities or organizations outside of your relationship?
Yes
Prior to addressing conflict, you may feel _________________ if you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend/family member?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
Your partner/friend makes you feel like every problem in your relationship is always your fault. What type of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
The following may all be examples of violations of which boundary?
Forcing your spiritual or religious beliefs on another person. Telling another person their spiritual/religious belief system is wrong. Discrimination based on religious or spiritual beliefs. Proselytizing to another person without their permission. Using threats of punishment from a Higher Power to control another person’s thinking and/or behavior.
Spiritual
What are some things you can do to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and keeping your sanity in a relationship?
Keep balance in your life (ex: between a relationship, friends, family, school/classes, work, and other activities), self care, etc
What is the key to many successful relationships that helps to navigate conflict and happy times?
Communication
Your partner/friend is constantly keeping tabs on what you are doing and who you are with. What kind of relationship is this?
Unhealthy Relationship
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight?
Making threats, giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!), accusing without listening, not being willing to apologize or take the blame, getting physical with your partner/friend
Setting boundaries is not always saying yes or no to people, it is about saying what?
How much
You start off with a solid foundation for a healthy relationship with your partner/friend. What is something that you can acknowledge that will help your relationship grow?
Discuss expectations, have realistic expectations, and realize that relationships and people change (so be flexible!) Communication, compromise, personal and flexible expectations