Definitions
What does compatible mean?
To get along with. To match.
Name 3 unhealthy ways to communicate (red flags).
yelling, screaming, silent treatment, taking a long time to respond, etc.
What is a blind date?
A date usually set up nay a mutual friend to introduce two people who have never met, but they think would get along well together.
They ask to hang out every weekend, but are very understanding if you are too busy. Red or green? Why?
Green or healthy. They want to spend time with you but understand if you have other activities.
What is the best food to get together on a date?
xien, lau, milk tea, nuong, etc.
What does gold-digger mean?
Love in the pursuit of money.
Hanh and Hung are having an argument. They are both angry, so they agree to wait until tomorrow to talk about their feelings again. Is this good communication? Why?
Yes. They agreed to wait until they were less upset to talk about the conversation more logically.
What does exclusive mean?
Exclusive means special or limited. In the context of a relationship, exclusive means two people are only seeing each other. They are no longer seeing other people outside of the relationship.
They text you every five minutes and get anxious when you do not respond. Red or green? Why?
Unhealthy or red. They require constant attention, which may not be healthy.
Name three factors that are important for success in a relationship.
patience, respect, care, empathy, communication, etc.
What does to drift apart mean?
To lose touch over time.
My and Vu are having an argument. Vu tells his friends about his perspective on the argument, and tells them to talk to My for him about the problem. Is this good communication? Why?
No. He is not talking directly to My, which might cause problems. He should communicate directly with her to solve the problem.
What is speed dating?
An event where single people sign up and match with one another to talk for a short period of time. After the time, they switch partners and speak to someone new. It is an event designed to meet people.
If you do not text them for a long time, they reach out to check if you are okay. They notice when you do not reach out to let them know how you are doing. Red or green? Why?
walking around the town square, going to a coffee shop, getting dinner together, eating xien together, etc.
What does hit it off mean?
To leave a good first impression. To get along with right away.
Name 3 healthy ways to communicate (green flags).
checking in with your partner, talking often, staying calm, respecting boundaries, etc.
Can you date other people if you are currently casually dating?
Yes. Casually dating means that you are not exclusive yet. You can casually date multiple people at the same time.
You guys have fought every week for three months, but always talk to each other to try to solve it. When it is fixed, you start fighting again after a week. Red or green? Why?
Red or unhealthy. You appear to be in a pattern of conflict. Constant fighting is not healthy.
It can be green if you learn how to finally resolve it, but otherwise, it is unhealthy.
Name two popular love songs, both the title and the artist.
Love Story by Taylor Swift, Tung La by Vu Cat Tuong, Baby by Justin Bieber, Cupid by Fifty Fifty, etc.
What does to settle down mean?
To date thinking about the future. To date with long-term goals in mind.
Why is communication important in a relationship?
to be on the same page, to understand each other, to maintain respect
What is the difference between a situation ship and a relationship?
boundaries, defining the relationship, a serious conversation about respect and communication, etc.
Red or unhealthy. If people that know you well are concerned about your relationship, you should consider listening to them because they may notice things about the relationship you might not notice.
If you listen to their concerns but are not worried, then it might be no flag or perfectly healthy.
What is the average age of marriage in Vietnam for women? Do you think it is going up or down? How do you think this will change in the next ten years and why?
23 years old. It is going up. People are getting married later. The trend will most likely continue, and people will get married older.