Essence of Respect
Which element of respect comes from the act of communicating openly and truthfully?
Honesty
Two people in a healthy relationship are ____ to one another.
Equal
Who is someone I have a healthy relationship with?
You named a person in your life who you have a relationship with that demonstrates the key characteristics of healthy relationships, such as a partner, parent, or friend.
If you are showing cooperation, you ____ for something rather than expect something.
ask
True or False: All relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive with unhealthy somewhere in the middle.
What do you think is a sign of a relationship becoming unhealthy?
You identified a warning sign, such as disrespect, hurtful communication, or blurred boundaries.
Which element of respect comes from accepting one another's word or giving someone the benefit of the doubt?
Trust
What do people in a healthy relationship avoid doing to one another?
Manipulating, exploiting, using, hurting, or degrading
Which element of respect is most important to you in building respect/feeling respected?
You identified one of the core elements of respect: accountability, safety, honest, support, cooperation, or trust
True or False: by using cooperation, one person makes a decision, and the other person agrees with it
False: decisions are made together, when possible, to honor the equality in the relationship.
True or False: you can be happy or enjoy spending time apart in a healthy relationship.
True: You can enjoy spending time with someone, away from someone, or sharing your time with a group of people!
When have you experienced a time when it was difficult to know the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship?
Bonus 100 pts: How did you handle the situation?
You identified a time where the line between healthy and unhealthy was blurred.
For 100 extra points, you identified how the situation was handled.
Which element of respect comes from the acceptance of responsibility over mistakes, hurtful behaviors, and attitudes?
Accountability
Two people in a healthy relationship encourage each other to ______.
be all that they are capable of being
Which element of respect is hardest for you to uphold?
You identified one of the 6 elements of respect and which one you find hardest to carry out in your relationships.
resolutions
True or False: When a person asks you to spend all of your time with them and prefers it when you speak with them over other people, it is because they are showing you love.
False: Isolation from others is a sign of abuse.
As you are learning about healthy and unhealthy relationships, you start to notice some unhealthy qualities in your relationship with your best friend. How would you address this?
You said something to support yourself, such as speaking to a therapist about how to speak to them, told a parent, or asked a teacher for help.
How can you demonstrate the concept of "Safety" in showing respect to a loved one?
-refusing to intimidate or manipulate the other person
-respecting their physical and emotional boundaries,
-expressing oneself non-violently
-using honesty
Both people in a healthy relationship demonstrate _____ in their roles within the relationship.
Which element do you feel you are needing more of in a relationship you are currently struggling with?
You identified one of the 6 elements of respect you find to be lacking.
Noncooperation is to rejecting change as cooperation is to ____ change.
accepting
True or False: When problems arise, it is okay to avoid discussing the issues because that can lead to arguing and an unhealthy relationship.
False: Avoiding the discussion of issues or fighting is a sign of a relationship becoming unhealthy. Learning to talk about problems and how to effectively discuss them is the key to a healthy relationship.
What is the difference between a need for control in a relationship and a need for independence?
You said something related to control being used as a hurtful way of limiting, isolating, or dictating another person and independence being used to maintain your sense of self.
Which element of respect comes from the act of supporting each other's choices, trying to understand each other, offering encouragement, valuing the other's opinions, and listening non-judgmentally?
Support
In a healthy relationship, both people avoid assuming an attitude of _____ over one another.
ownership
What is one way you can begin enhancing one of the elements of respect in your relationships?
You identified something you can begin doing to increase your sense of trust, accountability, safety, cooperation, support, and/or honesty.
Using ______ when making difficult decisions exhibits how cooperation can still be possible when there are disagreements.
compromise
True or False: In a healthy relationship, you have to be honest, and nothing can be kept private because there are no secrets in healthy relationships.
False: In a healthy relationship, honesty and boundaries are not the same. You can keep things private and still be honest. You are allowed to have privacy, and you do not need to sacrifice privacy to have honesty.
Healthy and unhealthy isn't always easy to identify.
What is a behavior seen in a relationship that could be a sign of something healthy or unhealthy depending on the intention behind it?
You identified something that could be healthy or unhealthy depending on the situation.
For example: a partner asks you to stop seeing your old friend group because they drink alcohol.
If their intention was to keep you away from other people so they can be your only support system and because they do not like you drinking with people other than them, that is unhealthy.
If their intention is to keep you away from triggering or hurtful people as you try to maintain sobriety, that is healthy and a sign of support.