Flags
Define red flag
When something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable, worried, sad, or anxious
These involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people. There is no imbalance of power. Partners respect each other's independence, can make their own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation, and share decisions.
What is a Healthy Relationship?
True or false - Whatever you post is not permanent.
False - everything you post is forever on the internet. Even when you delete a post or a picture, it is not really deleted.
What does consent mean?
Consent means that a person voluntarily and willfully agrees in response to another person's proposition. The person who consents must possess sufficient mental capacity (not under the influence of drugs or alcohol). Consent also requires the absence of coercion, fraud or error.
Your partner/friend makes you feel like every problem in your relationship is always your fault. What type of relationship is this?
unhealthy relationship
This part of your body can grow so quickly it’s possible to grow about half an inch in just a month.
Fingernails
What are some signs of emotional manipulation in a relationship? name at least 3
Name 4 characteristics of health relationships
Open communication, trust, respect, fun, joyful, supportive
True or False, you should leave your account public so that you can get as many followers as possible.
False, make your account private so you can control who follows and sees your content.
True or False. Once consent is given, it can never be taken back.
False! Consent can always be revoked (taken back) if someone is uncomfortable. Healthy relationships mean respecting someone's boundaries.
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
The average person will do this about 25,000 times a day without even thinking about it.
Breathe
Name 3 green flags that indicate a healthy relationship
Team work
Encouragement
Trust
Healthy boundaries
Mutual respect
Individuality
These red flags indicate an unhealthy relationship. Name at least 3.
gaslighting
Insults/ put downs
sharing images online and with others
violence (emotional, physical, mental and spiritual)
Doesn't respect boundaries
Yelling
What is Cyber bullying?
Being rude or cruel to others by posting harmful writing or engaging in forms of social bullying using the Internet.
True or false. The way I dress, if I flirt, or accept attention from someone means they can violate my boundaries.
False! My clothing or anything else about me is not an invitation to violate my boundaries. My consent is communicated with the word "yes."
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
This condiment used to be sold as a medicine in the 1830s and was believed to cure indigestion
Ketchup
What are common red flags? name 4
Common red flags include abuse of any kind, obsession, jealousy, pressure, lying, gaslighting and manipulation.
Your friend is in a relationship and you have noticed that their partner is getting angry at them when they hang out with their friends, is constantly asking them where they are, and they seem extremely in love one day and heartbroken the next. Do you think this is a healthy or unhealthy relationship?
Yes. The warning signs would include controlling who they spend time with, constantly needing to know where they are, and the back and forth emotional toll.
What are Cyber threats?
Electronically used words that generally raise concerns that the person may intend to do harm.
Your partner or friend suggests that you "owe them" because you are dating them. They want to take steps that you are uncomfortable with. Is this respect for consent?
No! This is a type of manipulation. You don't owe your partner anything. Healthy relationships are based on respect and what makes both people feel comfortable.
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
If someone is “throwing shade,” they are doing this.
being subtly disrespectful or critical
This is a form of emotional abuse. When a person manipulates the other that they're remembering things wrong or that they're misinterpreting events. Also when the other person presents their own thoughts and feelings as the truth.
What is Gaslighting?
Who can you go to for help if you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship? Name 2.
Parents
Teachers
Counselors
Friends/Older Siblings
Law Enforcement (if abuse is occurring)
You receive a picture from a friend that is provocative in nature, your friend encourages you to "pass it along" What should you do?
Delete the picture immediately and DO NOT SEND IT. Legal consequences can and will occur if you do.
If you are teasing your friend or partner and they are laughing but keep saying "no" or "stop" out loud, you can continue to tease them because they are laughing
NO! Even though they are laughing they are very clearly taking back consent by saying "no" or "stop" out loud
What are two things that will help you when you are trying to solve a conflict
Listening and treating everyone with respect
The only food that never spoils, even if it's thousands of years old.
Honey
Do green flags erase red flags that a partner or person has?
No. A red flag is still a red flag no matter how many green flags a person has.
What should you do if a friend comes to you and their partner has physically or sexually abused them?
Report to a trusted adult, like parents, counselor, school official or law enforcement right away.
I cannot get in trouble for the things I say or post online. True or False
False, I can and will be held responsible for actions and post that I make online.
Your friend has been pushing their partner to drink at parties because they want to "take their relationship" to the next step. Are there any red flags in this scenario?
Yes. Nobody should be pushed to do anything they do not want to, and a person cannot consent if they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight? Name at least 3
Making threats
giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!)
accusing without listening
not being willing to apologize or take the blame
getting physical with your partner/friend
This animal’s fingerprints are so similar to humans that they can confuse crime scene investigators.
Koala