Scenarios
You have teamed up with your best friend for a school project. You both picked parts to work on and planned to put everything together before the deadline. But whoops! The day before it's due, you realize you totally forgot to do your bit. Your friend is super annoyed because it's unfair that they have to do extra work now to help you. How do you fix this?
- apologizing
- taking responsibility for your actions
- taking steps to do better next time
- diving into help
- not making the friend help?
Are boundaries a good or a bad thing?
Good thing
What are three signs of a healthy relationship?
- mutual respect, trust, communication, kindness, enjoyment, support, collaboration, loved ones opinion, gut feeling, safety
Where do Lily and Ria go to school? Or program?
Loyola Maryland Clinical Psychology Doctorate Program (PsyD)
Is it healthy to be separately involved in activities or organizations outside of your friendship?
yes!
You're chatting with your friend, and suddenly your phone buzzes. Without even thinking, you grab it and reply to the text. Now, your friend feels likes he's just not that important to you. How can you make things right?
- showing you can listen and give them your full attention
- putting your phone down
- apologizing
- letting them know you are important to them
What are three types of boundaries?
-physical, sexual, emotional, time, material/financial
True or False: Boundaries only need to be set once and they do not expire.
False.
Where is Lily from?
New Jersey
Boundaries that are too ____ or too ____ can be considered unhealthy boundaries.
Rigid or weak
You promised your friend you'd be over for a movie night at 7pm. But after staying up late scrolling on your phone, you're super tired and accidentally crash at 6pm with no alarm set. You wake up at 10 pm and see 4 missed calls from your friend. When you talk, she says shes bummed because you're not as into the friendship she is. What do you do?
- Explain the situation and apologize
- Reassure her about her role in your life
- Create new plans ASAP
- Take steps to not do that in the future
What are three reasons we need boundaries for healthy and balanced relationships?
- encourage autonomy
- set expectations, clarify responsibilities
- empowerment and self-respect
- physical and emotional comfort
- protecting your well-bieng
- stopping resentment
Tana has had a boyfriend for the past 5 months. She says that he's really sweet and always gets her lots of gifts and takes her on really nice dates. Unfortunately, when they have disagreements, he makes her feel like everything is always her fault and calls her names? They always make up and apologize and he says he won't do it again. Healthy or Unhealthy?
Unhealthy
What is one of Ria's hobbies?
rock climbing, singing, theatre, movies/tv, crafting(any kind)
What are three signs of an unhealthy relationship?
Disrespect of Boundaries
Constant negativity/criticism
Lack of support
Lack of empathy
Power/Effort imbalance
Frequent Fighting
Unreliable
Gossip/Betrayal
Needing to know your every move
Codependency
Blackmailing/Guilt Tripping
You're chilling with your little brother, and he knocks over your phone and breaks it. You are super mad and yell at him. He already felt bad, but now he ran away crying and scared. He's worried about messing up again and making you angry. What do you do?
- Take a cool-off period. Time to regulate
- Even though he must apologize as well, you must apologize for yelling
- Try not to yell at someone going forth
- Seeing it from his perspective and reassuring him that you knew it was a mistake
Demonstrate / What's an example of setting a physical boundary.
- Not hugging
- Telling someone they are too close
- etc.
James has been with his girlfriend for a year now. They never fight but, she is constantly keeping tabs on what he's doing and who he's with. What kind of relationship is this?
Unhealthy
What are we here for?
Psychoeducation on well-being!
Why might people have unhealthy boundaries? Name 2.
Desire for control
Fear of rejection
Lack of boundary-setting experience
People-pleasing
Low-self esteem
One of your friends tells you they have feelings for you. You don't reciprocate those feelings. How should you handle this situation?
- clear and direct; clear is kind
- you can provide an explanation (you don't need to), but always remember to be kind
- acknowledge their courage
- Take healthy space for processing
- Respect their boundaries
Demonstrate/ What is an example of setting a time boundary?
- Taking time for yourself
ect.
Who can be in an unhealthy relationship?
What animal with a hat would Lily be?
Cat with bonnet.
Your friend says that she loves you and shows you a lot of affection (hugs, compliments), but she also talks smack behind your back. How can you communicate you are hurt?
- be direct and honest
- do not apologize for feeling your emotions
- I feel statements