Healthy vs Unhealthy
What is one sign of a healthy relationship?
Balanced (Also, accepting any answers said in group reviews)
What are the 3 ways we categorize boundaries?
Porous, rigid or healthy.
Why are I-statements important when resolving conflicts?
I-statements are important because they let you express your feelings and needs without blaming the other person, which helps prevent defensiveness and keeps the conversation respectful.
Your roommate borrows your things without asking, and you feel frustrated. What boundary could you set?
"I want you to ask me before borrowing my things.”
What is one reason people struggle to set boundaries?
Fear, trauma, rejection, or disappointing others.
True or False: Healthy relationships have no conflict.
False, healthy relationships use healthy conflict resolution.
Who are boundaries meant to protect?
Ourselves, we can't "put" boundaries on other people. Thinking of the fences analogy, you build a fence around your home.
Do people have one conflict resolution style?
No, people do NOT have just one conflict resolution style.
Most people have a dominant style, but they shift depending on many factors.
Your partner gets quiet and shuts down every time you bring up a concern. What conflict style might this be?
Avoidant or withdrawing style.
What saying reminds us that being honest and direct in relationships is actually a kind thing to do?
Clear is kind.
Describe at least 2 traits for a healthy relationship?
Balanced, honest, trustworthy, good communication skills, safe (physically, mentally, and emotionally)
How do boundaries and values coincide?
Boundaries are based on the things you value, because they protect what matters most to you.
What's the difference between assertive, passive and aggressive communication?
Assertive communication is direct and respectful, expressing needs clearly. Passive communication avoids expressing needs, and aggressive communication expresses needs in a hostile or disrespectful way.
A coworker always assumes you’ll cover their shift, and you feel guilty saying no. What boundary is needed?
A clear time/emotional boundary: “I can’t take your shift anymore.”
What saying encourages us to remember everyone has hard moments, so we shouldn’t judge others based on their worst moments?
“We hate to be judged on our worst moment, so we won’t judge anyone else on theirs.”
Why do relationships need to be balanced?
Because balanced relationships allow both people’s needs, boundaries, and voices to matter equally, which creates safety and trust. When relationships are unbalanced, one person holds more power, leading to resentment, conflict, or unhealthy dynamics.
What is a goal for setting healthy boundaries?
Think; does it need to be exactly the same every-time?
Boundaries should be consistent but flexible.
What are the thomas-kilmann conflict styles in his model?
Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating
You feel anxious and over-explain yourself during conflict with someone you love. What attachment, boundary style or conflict pattern could be causing this?
Anxious attachment, porous boundaries or accommodating conflict style.
What is one reason self-care is important in relationships?
Taking care of yourself helps you show up in a healthy way for others.
Can you define one of our toxic red flags vocab word?
Love bombing, Gaslighting, Control disguised as care or Jealousy disguised as love
(I will read definitons)
Name at least 3 boundary types?
Physical, emotional, intellectual, material/financial, time, and sexual.
Why is conflict healthy?
Conflict is healthy because it helps us understand what values, needs, or goals might be competing in a relationship. It gives us a chance to learn more about each other, practice communication skills, and find solutions that respect both people’s boundaries and priorities.
Your partner checks your phone because they’re “just worried.” What dynamic might this show?
Control disguised as care / unhealthy jealousy.
What is one benefit of learning about your own attachment style?
It helps you understand how you relate to others and manage conflict.