Communication
Starts with "I feel"
What is an I Message?
It is normal to experience some jealousy in a relationship - True or False
What is True.
When your partner shows respect for your friendships and gives you the space you would like to spend time with them.
What is an example of a green light
This occurs when a person voluntarily agrees to the proposal or desires of another person with free will.
What is consent
True or false: LGBTQ youth, first nations youth, youth with disabilities and racialized youth experience higher rates of dating violence than other populations?
What is TRUE
Saying something like "it was wrong to have chosen to go the that party, I would never have made such a bad decision" is an example of this type of communication barrier.
What is moralizing
These are two of the three ways we might react to fear/anxiety or stress
What are freeze, fight or flight
When your partner tells you regularly you are ugly, worthless, you are lucky to have them
What is a red light
Two times when a person cannot freely consent to sexual activity, even if they say "yes"
What are: When the person is in a position of power regardless of the youth's age, when a person is too intoxicated, when a person is under the age of 16 and they are involved with someone more than 5 years older, at 12-13 the person must be less than 2 years older.
Of the LGBTQ population, these youth experience the highest rates of dating violence with 89% experiencing physical violence, 59% experiencing emotional violence and 61% experiencing sexual violence
What are trans identified youth
Two parts of communication you lose through text/direct messaging
What are tone of voice, body language
How we ___________ about a situation affects how we feel and then also what we do about it.
What is THINK
What is emotional abuse
If someone is threatened or manipulated into sexual activity, someone consents on someone else's behalf
What are two times consent cannot be given
What are open-ended questions
These are two of the four horsemen
What are: criticism, contempt, stonewalling and defensiveness
These are two of the antidotes to the Four Horsemen
What are: gentle start up, show appreciation,Take responsibility, self-soothin
These are the types of violence that can be present in an unhealthy relationship
What are emotional, physical, sexual
True or false: Between 40-44% of youth aged 12-18 have experienced sexual coersion in their dating relationship
What is true
These are 3 things you find in a healthy relationship
What are: honesty, non-threatening, good communication, fairness, shared responsibility, respect, trust, independence, accountability
These are the four parts to an I message
This is a way to ensure a heavy conversation goes more smoothly
What is: Making sure you are calm and regulated, using I messages, Avoiding communication barriers, taking time before to think about your needs and how you will approach the conversation.
These are 2 things that can make it hard to leave a violent relationship
What are: fear (you may worry that the person will hurt you, hurt themself if they have threatened this, "out" you, believing the violence is normal, embarrassment, love (you may love your partner but want the violence to stop), social/peer pressure
These are the physical, emotional and sexual limits you create for yourself in a dating relationship
What are personal boundaries
This pattern represents
Pretending things are okay -> Build up (stressors) -> Acting Out (a violent episode takes place)-> Rationalize and Justify (blaming others, blaming being intoxicated, you made me angry) -> Pretending things are okay (both people in the relationship go back to pretending things are fine)
What is the Cycle of Violence