WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Your friend goes to hug you. You tell them, " I don't really want a hug right now," but they keep coming toward you anyway. What should happen next?
Your friend should stop and respect what you said. People are allowed to set boundaries about their own body
An older teen starts messaging a younger teen online. They give them lots of compliments and say, "You're way more mature than people your age." Is there anything you would pay attention to here?
Be cautious and pay attention to what happens next. Watch for behaviors like asking you to keep secrets, giving lots of gifts, wanting to spend time alone with you, sending inappropriate messages, pushing boundaries, or making you feel guilty or pressured.
Being nice, giving compliments, or giving someone a gift isnt automatically bad. We are looking at the pattern of behavior and what happens next.
What is a personal boundary?
A boundary is a limit or rule you set for yourself about what you are and are not comfortable with. Boundaries help protect your physical space, feelings, privacy, time, belongings, and relationships.
Myth or fact: If someone doesnt say the word "no" that means they gave consent."
False. Not saying "no" doesn't automatically mean someone agreed. Consent should be freely given, and someone may become quiet, freeze, or not know what to say
How many hearts does an octopus have?
A: 1
B: 2
C: 3
C: 3
You told a friend they could post a picture of you. Later, you decide you dont want it online anymore. What can you do?
You can change your mind and ask them to remove it.
Consent can be changed or taken back at any time.
Someone tells a teen, "Don't tell your parents about our messages. They wouldn't understand." What is concerning about this?
Asking someone to hide conversations or keep the relationship a secret can be a red flag. Secrecy can make it easier for someone to cross boundaries without other people knowing.
A friend says, "I need some time alone right now." The other friend says, "okay, text me when you're ready to talk."
Healthy or unhealthy?
Healthy. The friend communicated a boundary, and the other person respected it without guilt, pressure or anger.
Myth or fact: Someone can care about a person and still recognize that something they did was hurtful or wrong.
Fact. You can have mixed feelings about someone. Caring about a person doesn't mean everything they do is okay.
What candy was originally created for soldiers because it wouldn't melt as easily in their hands?
A: Kit Kat
B: M&Ms
C: Cotton Candy
B: M&Ms
Two teens are dating. One asks, "can I kiss you?" The other teen says, "umm.. I guess.". What would be a good next move?
Pause and check-in. Consent should be clear and feely given, not based on uncertainty or pressure.
Someone starts making inappropriate jokes around a teen. Later, they ask personal sexual questions and start seeing what the teen will let them get away with. What are they doing?
They are testing and pushing boundaries and seeing what the person will tolerate. Boundary testing can be one part of grooming
Someone gets upset whenever their partner or friend spends time with other people and says, "if you really cared about me, you'd spend time with me instead." What is unhealthy about this?
They're using guilt to influence or control the other person's choices. Its okay to feel jealous, left out, or disappointed, but its not okay to use those feelings to pressure someone or control who they spend time with.
Myth or fact: If someone freezes or doesnt fight back during an uncomfortable or scary situation, it means they were okay with what was happening
Myth. Freezing can be an automatic response to fear or stress. A person may feel unable to move, speak, or react even when they want something to stop
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Someone asks their partner for a private picture. Their partner says no. They keep asking until they finally say, "fine, whatever." What should have happened differently?
The first no should have been respected. Repeatedly pressuring someone can affect whether their eventual yes" is freely given consent.
Coercion
Someone gains someone's trust, gives them special attention, asks them to keep secrets, and slowly starts crossing boundaries. What is this called.
Grooming. Grooming is when someone builds trust or connection and then uses that trust to manipulate, exploit, or cross boundaries.
Two people disagree about something. One person says, " I dont agree with you but I want to understand why you feel that way.
Healthy or unhealthy?
Healthy. They demonstrated healthy communication skills. Healthy relationships allow people to disagree without insults, threats, pressure or disrespect.
Do healthy relationships always agree?
Myth or fact: If someone continues talking to a person after that person crosses a serious boundary, it means what happened couldn't have been that bad.
Myth. People may continue talking to someone for many reasons, such as caring about them, feeling confused, being afraid, depending on them, or not knowing how to handle what happened.
What does "GRWM" stand for?
Get ready with me
What are at least 3 things that should be present for consent to be healthy and valid?
Consent should be freely given, informed, specific, ongoing and reversible. A person should be able to say yes or no without pressure, fear, threats, or manipulation.
Why can it be hard for someone to realize they are being groomed?
Because grooming can start with things that feel positive, like attention, compliments, gifts, support, or feeling special. the unhealthy behavior may happen slowly over time, making it harder to recognize.
Name 3 things you might see in a healthy friendship or relationship
respect, trust, honesty, communication, support, independence, respecting boundaries, feeling safe saying no, taking responsibility, apologizing, allowing each other to have other relationships/interests
Myth or fact: Grooming only happens when a stranger tries to take advantage of someone
Myth. Grooming can involve someone the person already knows or trusts, including someone they consider a friend, partner, trusted adult, or someone they met online.
Grooming is about the pattern of gaining trust and then using the trust to manipulate or cross boundaries, not whether the person started as a stranger.
What does "FYP" stand for?
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