Boundaries
What is an example of a healthy boundary?
Someone who shares personal information in an appropriate way, knows their wants and needs and can communicate them
Name three characteristics of a healthy relationship
Mutual Respect, Trust, honesty, compromise, individuality, good communication, anger control, fair fighting, problem solving, understanding, self-confidence, being a role model, having a healthy sexual relationship
Is it okay to say "no" if you don't want to do something?
Yes
What is a time boundary?
Time Boundaries refer to how a person uses their time. To have healthy time boundaries, a person must set aside enough time for each facet of their life such as work, relationships, and hobbies. Time boundaries are violated when another person demands too much of someone's time.
What is Taylor Swifts new album called?
Midnights
What is the definition of personal boundaries?
Limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships
Control, hostility, dishonesty, disrespect, dependence, intimidation, physical violence, sexual violence
What is the importance of "I" statements
Describe how to tell someone "no" using effective communication skills
"I would love to, but I need to prioritize my rest, I am feeling pretty tired today. Maybe we can reschedule?"
What's the fastest animal in the world?
The Cheetah
What is an example of a rigid boundary?
Someone who struggles to open up to others, fears and avoids rejection
What is one thing you can do if you recognize you are in an unhealthy relationship?
Identify supports, make a plan
Why is it important to ask someone first if they are ready for a difficult conversation?
To ensure the person is ready, available and in the right headspace to listen to your concerns.
What does mutual respect look like in a relationship?
Each person values who the other is and understands the other person’s boundaries.
What's the most popular ice cream flavor in the world?
Name 2 different types of personal boundaries
Physical, emotional, material, sexual, time, intellectual
What are 2 effective communication tips?
· Voice: Make sure the tone of your voice and the volume of your voice are right for what you are saying.
· Intent: Know what you want if you are asking for something. What outcomes would be okay with you?
· Body Language: Think about what you are saying with your body. Are your arms folded? Are you looking somewhere else? Are you turned towards the person or away from them? It is best when your body language is saying the same thing your words are saying.
· Timing: Think about when you are going to ask for something or bring up a difficult topic. Does the other person have the time and energy to devote at that moment?
· Approach: Think about how you bring something up. Are you defensive, attacking or angry? Or are you calm and open to hearing the other person’s thoughts?
· Being Clear: Know what it is you want to say or bring up.
· Pay attention to word choice, tone of voice, and body language
What is co-dependence?
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner
What is the only edible food that never goes bad?
honey
An example of a porous boundary is
Someone who has difficulty saying no, is accepting of abuse, and relies heavily on others opinions
What is fair fighting?
Everyone argues at some point, but those who are fair, stick to the subject, and avoid insults are more likely to come up with a possible solution.
Fair fighting is a set of rules designed to help couples discuss their differences within boundaries, and in this way preserving the relationship over the need to "win over"
What does effective communication usually include?
o “I” statements (“I think …”, “I want …”)
o Expressing opinions (“I believe …”)
o Saying “No” firmly but respectfully
o Asking for what you want
o Initiating conversations
o Expressing positive feelings
o Expressing appreciation
o Stating your strengths and abilities (“I can …”)
What are non-verbal cues?
Nonverbal communication is the transmission of messages or signals through a nonverbal platform such as eye contact, facial expressions, gestures, posture, and body language. It includes the use of social cues, distance and physical environments/appearance, of voice and of touch.
What is a group of geese called?
A gaggle