Basics
What is teen dating violence?
Teen dating abuse is a pattern of physically, sexually, verbally, and/or emotionally abusive or controlling behavior in a dating relationship.
What is physical abuse?
(HINT: define it instead of giving examples)
Any unwanted contact with the other person’s body. Physical abuse does not have to leave a mark or abuse.
What is gaslighting?
True or False: Abusers may believe that abusive behavior is “normal.”
Abusers may believe that abusive behavior is “normal.” They may lack positive role models for their relationships.
True or False: Teen dating violence can involve digital communications and technologies or real world communications and physical interactions.
TRUE
What are some examples of physical abuse?
-Hitting
-Spitting
-Kicking
-Punching
-Burning
-Shoving
-Pinching
-Slapping
-Choking
etc.
This description explains what type of abuse?
Saying or doing something to the other person that causes the person to be afraid and/or have lower self-esteem. Trying to manipulate or control the person’s feelings or behaviors. This can include online posts or digital communications designed to threaten, harass, or embarrass someone.
Emotional/verbal abuse
True or false: The abuser is the person who is subjected to controlling behavior or hurt physically, sexually, verbally, or emotionally by an intimate partner.
FALSE: this description refers to the target
What are three different types of abuse?
Physical, emotional/verbal, sexual, financial, and mental
Any sexual behavior that is unwanted or interferes with the other person’s right to say “no” to sexual advances.
What is the name of this type of abuse?
Sexual abuse
Fill in the blank: Violence is a _ behavior that is shaped by observation, experience, culture, family and community.
Violence is a LEARNED behavior that is shaped by observation, experience, culture, family and community.
What are the three roles in dating abuse?
Abuser, target, and bystander
True or False: Only 33% of teens who have been in or known about an abusive dating relationship report having told anyone about it.
TRUE
True or False: Sending someone unsolicited or unwanted sexual images is not considered as an example of sexual abuse.
FALSE
What are three warning signs of teen dating violence?
-checking the other person's phone without their consent
-constantly puts you down
-extreme jealousy or insecurity
-explosive temper
-isolating you from family or friends
-tells you what to do/wear
-possessive
-physically hurts you in any way
-mood swings
-makes false accusations
What is the bystander role defined as?
A person who is aware or suspects that someone is being abused in a dating relationship. They bystander may become aware of the abuse through the abuser's or the target's actions or words
True or False: Girls and women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the lowest rates of intimate partner violence
FALSE: Girls and women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the HIGHEST rates of intimate partner violence
Emotional and verbal abuse can take place in real life or through the use of digital technologies. Name three examples of digital technologies and one real life example of emotional and verbal abuse.
These can take place in real life or through the use of digital technologies, such as social media, text messages, videos, photos, etc.
Real life examples:
-name calling and put-downs
-yelling or screaming
-telling the person what to do
-making racial/ethnic/religious insults
What are some of the effects of dating abuse on the person who experiences the violence or abuse?
Feeling ashamed
Feeling anxious
Becoming depressed
Having thoughts of suicide
Doing poorly in school
Losing interest in friends or favorite activities
Dressing differently, changing hairstyles
Engaging in self-harm, such as eating disorders or cutting
Isolation
Discarding or changing friends
What is the importance of the bystander role?
Although bystanders cannot “rescue” the target from the abuse, they can encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance and offer support.
Bystanders may also be able to talk to friends who are behaving abusively and express their disapproval or ask them to stop if it is safe for the bystander to do so.