Short Answer
Is abuse of any sort ever okay? What if you did something to upset the person?
what is...
NEVER - NO!
Your partner/ friend/ parent hits you whenever they feel upset with you but tell you they wouldn't do it if you didn't do things to make them mad.
What is Abuse
give me an example of physical abuse
multiple correct answers... discuss responses
give me an example of a healthy boundary?
multiple correct responses... discuss answers
it can be hard to tell you are in a relationship early on
what is true
give me an example of verbal abuse
multiple correct answers... discuss responses
You always feel like your partner’s wishes and goals come first.
what is unhealthy
list 3 types of relationships - example... teacher and student
what is...
Guardian/Child
Romantic relationship
Friendship
Student/teacher
Siblings
3 warning signs of an abusive relationship
what is...
• Constantly putting someone down
• Extreme jealousy or insecurity
• Explosive temper
• Isolating someone from their family or friends, dictating who they can see or hang out with
• Mood swings (nice one minute and angry the next)
• Checking someone’s cell phone, social media or email without permission
• Physically hurting someone in any way
• Possessiveness
• Telling someone what to do or what to wear
in order for a relationship to be abusive, someone has to have hit you.
what is false
if you have something that's been on your mind and want to share with your partner/friend/parent/etc. you should...?
what is
talk to them/ speak up in a healthy way
You and your partner feel like you can share things with with each other, but you also feel like you can keep some things private.
What is healthy
List 3 characteristics of a healthy relationship
what is...
trust
communication
honesty
love
respect
support
2 signs of an unhealthy/ abusive relationship
what is ...
Dependency
Jealousy
Control
Selfishness
Abuse
Physically abusive relationships almost always get better over time.
what is false
Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that they find a way to compromise if they disagree on something. They should try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way. This is called ...
what is compromise...
After an argument, your partner blocks the doorway and takes your keys to prevent you from leaving.
what is abusive
who was one faculty member at the school I said could help you in any situation regarding abuse?
what is
ANYONE YOU TRUST/ FEEL SAFE WITH
trick question!
list one thing you can do to help someone in an unhealthy/abusive relationship if they come to you
what is
be supportive
Keep the conversation friendly, not preachy
Don’t place the blame on your friend
Allow your friend to make their own decision
visiting a violence prevention center or behavioral health center, talking to a trusted adult or faculty member, or even calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
if someone is in imminent danger – whether it is self-harm or harm inflicted by another person. If your friend is in immediate danger, you should alert authorities (i.e., campus safety or 911) right away. Even if you think your friend will feel betrayed or angry with you for going to the police, saving someone’s life is the most important thing.
continue to check in on your friend
your friend comes to you and tells you that their parent has been hitting them but it's their fault because they got a bad grade on their test. They made you promise to not tell anyone. You should call the police or get another trusted adult involved to figure out next steps.
what is true
there is immediate physical danger to your friend
Why might it be challenging for an individual to exit an unhealthy/abusive relationship? List 2 things they should do/set in place after having made this decision.
many answers - discuss
When you go to your favorite restaurant and order something different, your partner acts disgusted and calls you stupid for ordering it.
what is unhealthy
give me 2 examples of "respect" in healthy relationships
what is...
respecting healthy boundaries
respecting your partners beliefs and morals
respecting your partner's privacy
etc...
Personal boundaries are the blank and blank we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.
what is limits and rules
all relationships fall on a spectrum, if most characteristics fall under healthy, then the relationship must be healthy.
what is false