True or False
Relationships are a mix of behaviors, both healthy and unhealthy.
TRUE - but behaviors should be a majority healthy.
Healthy relationships are built on...
trust, respect, equality, and consent.
Unhealthy relationships are built on...
power and control.
Abusive relationships are built on...
definite exertion of power and control.
Romantic relationships require...
ongoing commitment and attention.
Every healthy relationship looks the same.
FALSE - there are common threads but no two relationships are the same.
What does equality in a relationship look like?
Being able to make decisions together, putting equal effort into decision making.
Should your partner make you feel guilty or question your choices?
No!
Abuse is shown by a pattern of...
destructive behaviors to control or exert power.
Some ways to work on building a healthy relationship are...
Going to couples counseling, talking things out, couples journal.
You and your partner should be able to talk about anything.
TRUE - good communication about a variety of topics is important in any relationship.
What kind of compromises are not appropriate in a healthy relationship?
Any that would compromise who you are as a person, each person should have their own identity, freedom, and space.
Unhealthy disrespect and distrust can look like...
defensiveness and stonewalling.
Some signs of an abusive relationship include:
feeling trapped, controlled or drained by your partner.
When there is a conflict, it should be handled by...
talking things out with your partner, or the help of a therapist.
Healthy relationships should happen naturally with no work.
FALSE - it is work to make sure you and your partner are acting in respectful and healthy ways.
What is the key aspect of a healthy relationship?
Open communication.
When you feel you cannot exist without your partner, this is called...
Codependency!
Some signs of emotional abuse are...
manipulation, gaslighting, isolation, contempt, shouting, harmful to emotional and mental well-being, can be subtle and sophisticated.
Should you and your partner have the same friends?
You should have some shared friends, but it is also important to have lives outside of each other.
A relationship is considered unhealthy when there are any unhealthy behaviors.
FALSE - only when the bad outweighs the good is a relationship considered unhealthy.
Boundaries in a relationship help both people feel...
comfortable and secure.
If you have any unhealthy behaviors this is a sign you need to...
address them with your partner.
Some feelings that may come up when in an abusive relationship are...
anxiety, depression, worthlessness, misunderstood, or frustrated.
Will you always be able to tell when a behavior crosses from healthy to unhealthy? Why?
No, because every relationship exists on a spectrum, every relationship has it's ups and downs, every relationship is unique.