Name That Need!
This need is the most fundamental. Without this need present, we cannot have a relationship with someone.
What is Safety
Your partner gives you a hug to say thank you for doing the laundry. What need is being met?
What is feeling: Appreciated
You attend a meeting where you observe someone talking over others and interrupting constantly. What is the (primary) need NOT being met here?
What is feeling: Heard
How many domains are there in Emotional Intelligence?
What are: Four Sections
How many stress states are there?
What are: Three
This is a higher-level need. It is the at the top of the triangle and requires someone to really pay attention to us.
What is: Valued
Your significant other knows you have had a long week, have been working a lot of extra hours and haven't had time for much else. When you come home, they have washed the dishes and cooked dinner. What need have they met?
What is: feeling Understood
You were hurt by something that a colleague said to you and when you approached them about it, they responded with, 'stop being so sensitive'. What need is not being met?
What is feeling: Safe (trust, respect, consistency, predictability)
You are in line at the grocery store. You notice the person in front of you gets quite upset at the cashier for not honouring their coupon. You start to feel uncomfortable and agitated but are able to stay calm. What self-management skill have you displayed?
What is: Regulating your emotions
You are feeling shut down, hopeless, numb and generally sad. Which stress state are you in?
What is: Stress State 3
This feeling arises when your efforts, opinions, or presence are not acknowledged by others, leaving you with a sense of invisibility. What is the need NOT being met?
What is: feeling Seen
You have learned that a friend really values phone calls over texting. You make a conscious effort to call this person to check-in. What is the (primary) need you are meeting by doing this?
What is: Understood
(potentially all of them)
You have bonded with a colleague over your mutual interest in fashion; often complimenting one another on each other's style choices. You don't know one another on a deeper level, but it is a fun, light-hearted friendship. Name the primary need present.
What is feeling: Seen
*elements of other needs are likely present
You are great at understanding yourself and managing your responses to your emotions. You have a hard time accurately reading other people and understanding them. Which two sections of EI are you strong in?
What is: Self Awareness and Self-Management
Scenario: Someone is driving and hears police sirens. They start to feel anxious as the worry they have been speeding. Which stress state are they in?
What is: Stress State 2
This positive emotion is experienced when your efforts and contributions are recognized by others, often boosting your morale and motivation. What is the need being met?
What is feeling: Appreciated and/or Valued
You are the glue to your friend group. You are the one always setting up events and gatherings. This is how it has always been. No one else steps up to do this because they rely on you and no one ever acknowledges the role you play verbally or through their actions. Which FOUR NEEDS are not present?
What is feeling: Seen, Understood, Appreciated, Valued
You have weekly meetings with your team members. In these meetings, you make a concerted effort to: be respectful of their time, follow through on action items from the last meeting and if you're having an off day, you communicate this. What is the (main) need you are providing?
What is: Safety (trust, respect, consistency and predictability)
Your 5-year-old is having a meltdown because his shoe laces have become untied and you are running late, what are your options:
a) Stop buying him shoes with laces
b) Be aware you and him are both in a stress state 2, if you want to regulate him, you must first regulate yourself
c) Distract him with a toy, yell into a pillow, tie his shoes and get out the door
What is the best answer?
What is: B
In what self-management technique are skills such as: empathy, resilience and grit born?
What is: Pausing and regulating your emotions
This need invokes feelings of: connection, alignment, and feeling accurately witnessed. It is not something we necessarily need in all relationships, but at least some. Which need is this?
What is feeling: Understood
Your friend throws you a birthday party. She does this while juggling many other things in her life. You express gratitude for her while acknowledging the many things she juggled to make this happen. She in turn expresses how amazing she thinks you are and how reliable of a friend you are. What are all the needs present here?
What are all of them! (safety, heard, seen, understood, appreciated and valued).
Upon working with a colleague on a project, you start to notice that this person: follows through on their commitments, does what they say they will and despite having challenges, stays steady in their temperament. You express your gratitude for this person's approach and execution. Which need is being received? Name one need you are giving in return.
What is (received): Safety
What is (given): Understood, Appreciated, Valued
What are the four domains of emotional intelligence and what is one example/explanation of each?
What is: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management?
You receive an email and it contains feedback from an event you recently organized. The feedback is constructive however you are in stress state 2 when reading it and are only receiving it as criticism. You immediately reply and defend each point. What crucial step is being missed here?
What is: Pausing and Regulating Emotions