Family Systems
This is the way a family relates to one another, brings comfort, repairs ruptures, and meets each others needs.
What is a family system?
There is one secure form of this, and three insecure forms of this. It is formed in the family system.
What is an attachment style?
This system contains two parts: The sympathetic nervous system, and the parasympathetic nervous system.
What is the autonomic nervous system?
The name of a specific person, place, or thing.
What is a proper noun?
This is a judgment of a person that assumes their motive, instead of just making an observation.
What is criticism?
This family system provides for members to be seen, soothed, and safe.
What is a secure family system?
This attachment style is formed when children are seen, soothed, and safe.
What is a secure attachment?
In this nervous system one can experience: fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and flat. This can be triggered when we feel threatened.
What is the sympathetic nervous system?
This is a contraction for the words they and are.
What is they're?
The act of making someone feel small through comments, sarcasm, mocking, or cruelty.
What is contempt?
This family system is created when parents are too preoccupied with themselves and are inconsistent in meeting the needs of their children. They are not proactive in engaging with their children, and give them too much time alone. They produce an anxious attachment.
What is a disengaged family system?
This attachment style is formed in a disengaged home. Children are often ignored, their pain is dismissed or minimized, needs are not consistently met. Children often act out or become dramatic to have attention drawn to them.
What is an anxious attachment style?
This part of the nervous system is also known as rest and digest?
What is the parasympathetic nervous system?
These words are capitalized every time you address your parents.
When do you capitalize Mom and Dad?
When a person refuses to own their part in a problem and deflects by putting the focus on someone or something else.
What is defensiveness?
This family system is very harsh, always looking for ways to criticize and be contemptuous towards one another. Emotions are not safe to be explored or expressed. This pairs with an avoidant attachment.
What is a Rigid Family System?
This attachment style is connected to a Rigid Home. Children are often overcorrected, and the tones that are used in speaking with them are harsh and contemptuous. Kids that come from this home feel like they are never good enough.
What is an avoidant attachment?
Practicing this can regulate the nervous system and turn off disruptive genes.
What is cuddling/ snuggling?
This happens when a person refuses to talk and simply ignores the other person. This is the last step before a relationship ends.
What is stonewalling?
This system is created when the parents who are meant to be safe become unsafe. They are not emotionally mature or dependable. Abusive of every kind runs rampant.
What is a chaotic family system?
This attachment is formed in a chaotic home. The needs of the family are not met, and children are not safe to express their emotions. Children often feel worthless.
What is a disorganized attachment?
Toddlers practice this when they are dysregulated and crying. God built this into our natural way of coping to help regulate us again.
What is breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth?
When this happens your peripheral vision is impaired, your hearing is impaired, and your IQ drops 20 points.
What is flooding?