Social Filter Smarts
What is a social filter?
Thinking before you speak to decide whether something is appropriate, helpful, and respectful.
What should you do before saying something that might hurt someone's feelings?
Pause and think about whether you should say it.
You think, 'I really like your drawing!' Say it or keep it in your head?
Say it!
Change 'MOVE!' into a respectful sentence.
'Excuse me, could I please get by?'
A friend says something that hurts your feelings. What could you say?
'That hurt my feelings. Please don't say that to me.'
True or false: If something is true, it's always okay to say it.
False
True or false: You have to share every thought that pops into your head.
False
You notice a classmate has a different hairstyle that you don't like. Say it or keep it?
Keep it
🎉 DOUBLE JEOPARDY 🎉
Change 'You're doing that wrong!' into something more helpful.
'Would you like some help?'
You notice something unusual about someone's appearance. What should you do?
Avoid pointing it out unless it's something helpful they can easily fix, like food on their face, and tell them privately and kindly.
🎉 DOUBLE JEOPARDY 🎉
Name two things you should ask yourself before saying something out loud.
Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? Is it respectful? Is this the right time?
Why should you think about how someone might feel before you speak?
Because your words affect other people's feelings and relationships.
You think another student's lunch looks disgusting. Say it or keep it?
Keep it
Change 'That's a stupid idea!' into a respectful disagreement.
'I have a different idea. Could we try this instead?'
Your friends are laughing at someone else's mistake. What should you do?
Don't join in. You could help the person or remind your friends to be kind.
Why is it important to use your social filter even when you're joking?
Because a joke can still embarrass or hurt someone, even if you didn't mean to.
🎉 DOUBLE JEOPARDY 🎉
You have something to say, but someone else is talking. How can you use your social filter?
Wait for an appropriate time to speak instead of interrupting.
🎉 DOUBLE JEOPARDY 🎉
Your partner is distracting you. You think, 'You're so annoying!' Say it, keep it, or filter it?
Filter it
Change 'Nobody wants to play with you!' into something more respectful.
We already started our game, but maybe we can find a way for you to join next round.'
You accidentally say something rude and realize it hurt someone's feelings. What should you do next?
Apologize sincerely, take responsibility, and try to use your social filter next time.
What is the difference between being honest and being hurtful?
Being honest means telling the truth. Being hurtful means saying something in a way that unnecessarily embarrasses, insults, or upsets someone. You can be honest and respectful at the same time.
A comment might be funny, but it could embarrass your friend in front of the class. What should you consider before saying it?
Whether the joke is worth potentially hurting or embarrassing your friend. It's better not to say it.
Your friend asks for your opinion on a project, and you don't think it's very good. Say it, keep it, or filter it?
Filter it
You think your classmate's presentation was boring. They ask what you thought. How can you respond honestly while using your filter?
Offer kind, specific, constructive feedback, such as 'I liked your pictures. Maybe you could add something to get the audience involved.'
🎉 DOUBLE JEOPARDY 🎉
Your friend tells you that something you said was hurtful, but you were 'just joking.' What should you do?
Listen to their feelings, apologize, and understand that something can be hurtful even when you meant it as a joke.