Scenarios
You feel like your mom always
tells you what to do, but never hears you out
when you’re trying to voice your opinion.
“I feel frustrated when my mom tells me what to do without listening to my opinion because I want to feel heard and respected.”
Imagine if you got to go to an ENHYPEN concert and Sunghoon smiled and waved right at you.
“I feel excited and special because Sunghoon noticed me!”
“You’re so annoying!”
False - It blames the other person and doesn’t express a feeling.
Someone told on you for doing something bad to the teacher.
“You’re such a snitch.”
“I feel angry when people tell the teacher what I did because I don’t like getting in trouble.”
Your brother went into your room without asking, and it got trashed.
“I feel upset when my brother goes into my room without permission because I want my things to be safe.”
Imagine if Sunghoon says you're his biggest fan.
“I feel shocked and amazed because I never thought he’d notice me.”
"You're botched and bald."
False - not an I statement
Your brother keeps cheating when you play board games together.
“You’re such a cheater!”
“I feel frustrated when you cheat because it makes the game less fun for everyone.”
Your friend spread a rumor about you to the whole grade that isn't true.
“I feel upset when my friend spreads rumors because it isn’t true and it hurts my feelings.”
Imagine if you meet a new friend and she likes ENHYPEN too!
“I feel happy because we can talk about Sunghoon all day long!”
“I feel hurt when my mom cancels our plans because it makes me feel like I’m not important.”
True - I statement
You got in trouble for talking in class.
“That’s not fair! Everyone else was talking too!”
“I feel frustrated when I get in trouble for talking because it feels unfair.”
You need to see Mr. Polanco about something, but your teacher isn't letting you go.
“I feel upset when I can’t go see Mr. Polanco because I need his help.”
Imagine if you were supposed to go to an ENHYPEN concert, but your parent said you couldn’t go at the last minute.
“I feel disappointed and sad because I was really looking forward to seeing them.”
“I feel you’re being unfair.”
False – That’s a judgment (“you’re being unfair”), not an emotion.
Your teacher marked you late even though you were on time.
“That’s so stupid, I wasn’t even late!”
“I feel upset when I get marked late because I was on time and it feels unfair.”
A girl in school is talking negatively about your family, saying a bunch of lies.
“I feel angry when someone spreads lies about my family because I want them to be treated with respect.”
Imagine if your best friend got ENHYPEN tickets and didn’t invite you.
“I feel jealous and hurt because I wanted to share that experience too.”
“I feel hurt and embarrassed when Conrad told others I liked him because I trusted him and now I feel exposed.”
True - I statement
Your teacher marked your homework missing even though you handed it in.
“You literally always mark my homework missing! You hate me!”
“I feel annoyed when my homework gets marked missing because I worked hard on it.”