ACT IT OUT
You just told your sister, "You are so gross! Stop eating with your mouth open! You make me want to puke!" You notice she looks really hurt. So you apologize and say an I-Statement instead. What I-Statement can you use? ACT IT OUT
I feel disgusted when I see you eating with your mouth open, because I see your chewed up food. I need you to eat with you mouth closed, please.
Any "I feel______ when______, because________. I need ________. "will work
The following is an example of an
I-Statement:
“I feel frustrated when you take my things out of my room without asking first because then I have a hard time finding my stuff. Could you please ask me first next time?”
True
Imagine if you told your friend private information about a big change that was happening with your family and they promised not to tell anyone. Later on, you find out that your friend didn’t keep their promise and now half the class knows about your personal business. You feel betrayed and don’t know if you can trust your friend again. What I-Statement could you use?
I feel betrayed when you didn't keep your promise, because half the class knows my personal business, and I don't know if I can trust you again. I need you to show me that you can earn my trust back by apologizing.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
How many legs does a spider have?
8
You and your friend made plans to hang out during lunch. But when the time came, your friend went off with another classmate. You felt really disappointed and bummed out by this.
What I-Statement could you use to
talk to your friend about this?
Act It Out!
I feel disappointed when didn't follow the plan and went with another classmate. I need you to tell me about the change of plans or follow through with the plan.
Any "I feel________ when__________, because _______. I need ________." statement will work
“You get on my nerves!” is an example of on I-Statement.
False
Imagine if your friend had a habit of grabbing and eating some of your lunch without asking if it was okay. Most of the time you are happy to share your food, but you’d prefer it if they asked you first.
What I-Statement could you use?
I feel upset when you grab and eat my lunch, because you are taking something of mine without asking. I need you to ask me first.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
What's the response you get when you say, "see you later alligator"?
"In a while crocodile!"
Pretend that your younger sibling won’t stop talking and it’s driving you crazy because you are trying to focus on completing your homework. Instead of telling them, “You’re so annoying! You’re driving me insane! Stop talking!” what
I-Statement could you use instead?
Act It Out!
I feel annoyed when keep talking while I am trying to focus on completing my homework. I need you to give me quiet time while I work on my homework.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
The following statement is an example of an I-Statement:
“When you teased me, you made me so mad.”
False - it is missing the "I need" statement
Imagine if your classmate was distracting and disturbing you while you were trying to complete your assignment. You don’t want to be “mean” but you also want to be able to focus on your work.
What I-Statement could you use?
I feel annoyed when you are distracting me, because it is disturbing me while I work. I need quiet time while I work.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
What big cat is the largest?
Tiger.
Your friend just laughed at you in front of the entire class for getting the wrong answer and you felt embarrassed and hurt. You think maybe your friend doesn’t know how their behavior impacted you, so you decide to talk to them privately after class. Use an I-Statement to communicate how you feel and how you would like to be treated.
Act It Out!
I feel hurt when you laughed at me in front of the entire class for getting the answer wrong, because it was embarrassing. I need you to not laugh at me.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
The following is an example of an I-Statement:
“I think that you’re a liar and a cheater.”
False
Imagine if your friend teased you about your drawing, that you really put a lot of effort into and felt proud of. Now you feel slightly embarrassed and hurt.
What I-Statement could you use?
I feel embarrassed when you teased my about my drawing, because I put a lot of effort into it. I need you to use kind words
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
What school did Harry Potter attend?
Hogwarts!
This is the second or third time that you’ve noticed your friend roll their eyes at you and then lean over and whisper to another classmate while looking straight at you. You are not quite sure what is going on but you do know that you feel uncomfortable. What I-Statement could you use with your friend?
Act It Out!
I feel uncomfortable when you roll your eyes at me and then lean over and whisper to another classmate while looking straight at me, because I believe your are saying mean things about me. I need you to talk to me if there is something I am doing to annoy you and not roll your eyes at me.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
I-Statements are only useful if you have a disagreement or conflict with someone.
False- I statements can also be used to express joy and happiness
Imagine if one of your classmates often put you down when you played soccer with them. Instead of being teased, how would you like to be treated instead?
What I-Statement could you use?
I feel embarrassed when you put me down when we play soccer, because I am trying my best and it seems like you don't like the way I play. I need you to use kind words
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
Name the coldest place in the world
Antartica