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Your parents are not letting you play games.
I feel angry/frustrated when you don't let me play games, it would be better if you came up with a way I can earn the games.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
During a game, your friends keeps changing the rules to their advantage.
"I feel upset when the rules keep changing because it doesn’t feel fair. I would like us to agree on the rules and stick to them."
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
The following is an example of an
I-Statement:
“I feel frustrated when you take my things out of my room without asking first because then I have a hard time finding my stuff. Could you please ask me first next time?”
True
Change the following yoU-Message
into an I-Statement:
“You’re so unfair! You always believe him over me even when he is lying! ”
I feel hurt when you believe him over me, because it seems like you are being unfair. I need you to listen to my side.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
Your brother accidentally breaks your favorite toy.
I feel really sad when my toy gets broken because it was special to me. I would like you to help me fix it or find a solution.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
Your teacher is asking you to work on a writing assignment and you are having a hard time organizing your thoughts.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
Growling is an example of a I-Statement.
False
Use an I-Statement to share how you feel right now, in this very moment.
Go!
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
Your mom promised to spend that day with just you but let your brother join your plans last minute.
I feel angry/hurt/sad when you break promises you've made, it would be better if you stuck to our plans to spend the day together and made separate plans with my brother on another day
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
The teacher gives a multi-step science activity with the following instructions:
Draw a picture of a plant.
Label the parts of the plant (roots, stem, leaves, flower).
Write three sentences about how plants grow.
You complete the drawing and labeling but skip the writing part. When the teacher asks why the writing isn’t done, you feel embarrassed because you thought you were finished.
"I feel embarrassed when I don’t understand all the directions because I want to do my work correctly. I would like to check with the teacher when I’m unsure next time"
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
The following statement is an example of an I-Statement:
“When you teased me, you made me so mad.”
False - it is missing the "I need" statement
Who can use I-Statements?
EVERYONE!! :)
Pretend that your brother won’t stop talking and it’s driving you crazy because you are trying to focus on completing your homework. Instead of telling them, “You’re so annoying! You’re driving me insane! Stop talking! Use a I-statement.
I feel annoyed when keep talking while I am trying to focus on completing my homework. I need you to give me quiet time while I work on my homework.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
Your friend just laughed at you in front of the entire class for getting the wrong answer and you felt embarrassed and hurt. You think maybe your friend doesn’t know how their behavior impacted you, so you decide to talk to them. Use an I-Statement to communicate how you feel and how you would like to be treated.
I feel hurt when you laughed at me in front of the entire class for getting the answer wrong, because it was embarrassing. I need you to not laugh at me.
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.
The following is an example of an I-Statement:
“I think that you’re a liar and a cheater.”
False
What are two good reasons to
use I-Statements over yoU-Messages?
1. It shows the other person what emotions you are experiencing
2. The other person cannot argue because it is the way you feel and what you need
3. They understand what they did to give you the emotion
4. It eliminates blame and name calling
You just told your brother "You are so gross! Stop eating with your mouth open! You make me want to puke!" You notice he looks really hurt. So, you apologize and say an I-Statement instead.
I feel disgusted when I see you eating with your mouth open, because I see your chewed up food. I need you to eat with you mouth closed, please.
Any "I feel______ when______, because________. I need ________. "will work
During independent reading time, the class is expected to read silently for 20 minutes. You get distracted by classmates whispering and tapping pencils. They start doodling in their notebook instead of reading. When reading time is over, you only read a couple of pages. The teacher asks for a summary of what you read, but you can’t recall much.
"I feel frustrated when I get distracted and can’t finish my reading because I want to understand the story. I would like to sit in a quieter spot or use headphones to help me focus."
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work
I-Statements are only useful if you have a disagreement or conflict with someone.
False- I statements can also be used to express joy and happiness
Think about a recent conflict you had with someone, maybe with a friend, teacher, family member. If you could go back in time and use an I-Statement with them, what would you say?
Any "I feel _______ when ________, because _______. I need __________." statement will work.