I STATEMENTS

I-statement Formula

100

What is the first component of an I-statement?

I Feel

200

What is the second component of an I-statement?

Explaining the reason why you feel a certain way! 

I Feel ______ BECAUSE 

300

What is the third component of an I-Statement?

Explain what caused that emotion or feeling. 

I Feel _____ because ______ WHEN_____

400

What is the last component of an I-statement? 

Explain what you or someone else could do differently. 

I Feel _____ because _____ when _____ so could you/so I could ________.

500

What is the I-statement formula?

I FEEL ___BECAUSE ____WHEN ____SO COULD YOU/SO I COULD _______. 

FEELINGS

100

create an I- statement using the feeling happy. 

I Feel happy when ________ so could you/ so I could

200

Create an I-statement using the feeling sad.

I Feel sad when ________ so could you/ so I could

300

 create an I- statement using the emotion angry. 

I Feel angry when ________ so could you/ so I could

400

create an I statement using the feeling shocked. 

I Feel shocked when ________ so could you/ so I could

500

create an I-statement using the feeling annoyed. 

I Feel annoyed when ________ so could you/ so I could

THEY GOT PROBLEMS

100

Cindy is 18 years old. Cindy's parents and her 23-year old brother Rich are going away for the weekend. Renee, Cindy's best friend, is pressuring her to throw a huge Saturday night party for all their friends since no one will be home. Renee even asked Rich if he could pick up alcoholic beverages for them. Rich brought back two kegs of beer, a case of wine coolers, a bottle of vodka, and a few bottles of wine, which he hid in the basement. Renee also spread the word around school for everyone to show up. Cindy now has over $200 worth of alcohol in the basement, an empty house for the weekend, and fifteen friends expected.

CREATE AN I-STATEMENT 

200

Tom is responsible for giving a bonus to factory workers that have perfect attendance during the month. One worker missed one day due to a death in the family. The worker starts crying in Tom’s office and tells Tom that she needs the bonus desperately since she is behind on her rent. The rules are clear and the bonus is for perfect attendance period no if, buts, or maybes. However, Tom does have the authority to make exceptions to the rule.

CREATE AN I STATEMENT 

300

It is Friday and jim has a midterm exam on Wednesday. jim just found out he has  been scheduled to work all weekend and has class all day Monday and Tuesday? If he does not work this weekend, he risk the chance of getting fired, and he is in need of this job. This is leaving JIm very little time to study.

CREATE AN I STATEMENT 

400

Sonya is a new nurse’s aide. Most of Sonya’s coworkers are Filipina. The Filipinas are fluent in English, but choose to speak their native language which Sonya does not understand. Sonya feels this is rude and this practice makes her feel like an outsider.

I FEEL THAT SONYA FEELS DISRESPECTED BECAUSE HER COWORKERS SPEAK A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE WHEN THEY ARE AT WORK SONYA COULD CONFRONT HER COWORKERS NICELY OR GO TO HR TO COMBAT THE PROBLEM.  

500

Bill and Tom, both 18, are driving around on a Saturday night looking for something to do. Tom stops at his house to make some phone calls and pick up some beer for the road. He hands the 6-pack to Bill, who immediately cracks one open and tosses the rest in the backseat. Tom, distracted by Bill, drives through a stop sign. The next thing the boys notice is the siren from an approaching police car?

I FEEL THAT BILL AND TOM ARE FEELING SCARED BECAUSE THEY BOTH CHOSE TO ENGAGE IN RECKLESS BEHAVIORS WHEN DRIVING BOTH BOYS COULD COMBAT THE SITUATION BY OWNING UP TO THEIR MISTAKES. 

HOW DOES THIS MAKE YOU FEEL

100

My friend has been calling me every day for the past week. I know they are going through a lot right now but I don’t feel like I can handle to talk to her right now. I wish they didn’t call so often and I don’t know how to tell them this.  

I STATEMENT

200

You never take the time to listen to me. You seem to listen only so I wont get mad but not because you’re really interested in me.  

I STATEMENT

300

 

My friend borrowed money from me and hasn’t paid me back yet after I’ve reminded them several times. Now I need the money to pay my phone bill.   

I STATEMENT

400

A family member keeps yelling at you to clean the kitchen. I just got home from a 8 hour work day I want to sit down and relax why can't they just lay off me for 10 minutes. 

i statement

500

 you’re always criticizing me and like I can’t do anything right.

I statement

RANDOM

100

CREATE AN I-STATEMENT USING A CHOICE FEELING. 

I FEEL ___ 

200

HOW DO I-STATEMENTS IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

ALLOWS YOU TO BE CLEAR AND DIRECT ABOUT PERSONAL WANTS AND NEEDS 

I STATEMENTS ARE FOCUSED ON PERSONAL FEELINGS AND NON-BLAMING 

I STATEMENTS ARE ASSERTIVE 

300

COMPLETE THIS I-STATEMENT 

I FEEL HAPPY WHEN I AM WITH MY FAMILY BECAUSE_______________ SO I COULD_______.

400

COMPLETE THIS I STATEMENT

I FEEL ______ WHEN THE DOG POOPS IN THE HOUSE SO I COULD TAKE THE DOG OUT MORE OFTEN. 

FINISH THE STATEMENT

500

I FEEL ____ WHEN _____ SO I COULD STOP HANGING OUT WITH THAT PERSON. 

FINISH THE STATEMENT