Calming strategies
Communication
Skills

Problem solving
Social skills
Cognitive coping
100

You lose a game and feel upset

deep breathing / count to 10 / take a break

100

Someone takes your toy

ask for it back / say “I was using that” / tell an adult

100

You spill your drink

clean it up / get paper towels / ask for help

100

You don’t win a game

say “good game” / congratulate others / stay calm

100

You feel like quitting

tell yourself “I can do this” / try again / think positive

200

You feel really angry

deep breathing / squeeze hands / count slowly

200

You don’t understand directions

ask for help / say “can you explain again?” / raise your hand

200

You can’t find your backpack

retrace your steps / look in common places / ask for help

200

Someone interrupts you

wait your turn / raise your hand / listen

200

You feel jealous of a friend

focus on yourself / think positive thoughts / remind yourself you’re doing your best

300

The room is too loud

cover ears / take a break in a quiet space / deep breathing

300

You feel sad

tell a trusted adult / say “I feel sad” / ask for support

300

Your toy breaks

try to fix it / ask for help / choose a different toy

300

You’re waiting in line

keep your spot / wait patiently / hands to self

300

You feel embarrassed

tell yourself “it’s okay” / everyone makes mistakes / move on

400

You feel overwhelmed with work

take a break / deep breathing / close eyes for a moment

400

You want to join a game

ask “can I play?” / use a friendly voice / wait for response

400

You’re bored

find something to do / ask for an activity / make a plan

400

Someone bumps into you

say “it’s okay” / stay calm / keep your body calm

400

Plans suddenly change

 tell yourself “that’s okay” / think about the new plan / stay flexible

500

You feel nervous before a test

deep breathing / count to 10 / relax your body

500

You need help with homework

 ask for help / say “this is hard for me” / raise your hand

500

You make a mistake on work

erase and try again / fix it / ask for help

500

A friend wins and celebrates loudly

say “good job” / stay calm / be a good sport

500

You didn’t get picked first

think “I’ll get a turn” / stay positive / be patient

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