Definitions
What is an impulse?
The feeling or urge to say or do something.
What is the difference between a given and a natural consequence?
A given consequence is a consequence given by someone else such as a time out, being grounded, missing recess, etc. A natural consequence is a consequence that happens naturally such as getting hurt, friends not wanting to play with me, getting good grades or not, etc.
Something I can picture in my head to help myself remember to stop would be...
Various answers such as a stop sign, a hand being held up, a stop light
What are some feelings that might make it more difficult to control our impulses?
Angry, excited, tired, grumpy, hungry, scared, nervous
You have the impulse to cut in the front of the line. What might happen?
You might get in trouble, your classmates might get mad and not want to play with you
What is impulse control?
The ability to stop and think when we have an impulse.
Give an example of a given consequence
Various Answers such as being grounded, a time out, missing recess, losing privileges.
Something I can picture in my head to help me think would be...
A brain, a lightbulb, a finger touching a head, a thought bubble
What is one coping skill you can use when you are feeling mad to help you calm down and make good choices?
Deep breathing, counting, punch a pillow, talk to someone, take a break, so something I enjoy, listen to music, etc.
In this scenario, which decision shows good impulse control: Your teacher asks you to take something to the principal's office for her. You- a. Run down the hall; b. Stop by your friend's class, peak in the door and wave at him; c. Walk straight to the principal's office, give her the item, and walk straight back to class
What is a consequence?
Give an example of a natural consequence
Various answers such as grades, getting hurt or not, friends wanting to play with your or not, running out of time
What is a game I could play that would help me practice stop and think?
Checkers, chess, red light green light, simon says, connect 4
What is an example of an I-feel statement?
I feel _____ because/when _____.
Some decisions are okay in one time and place and not okay in others. Which one is okay? Jumping up and down and cheering in class after you got an A on a test; Jumping up and down and cheering at a basketball game after your favorite team scored.
What is a coping skill?
Something you do to help you handle/cope with a situation
When you make good choices are you more likely to have positive consequences or negative consequences?
Positive
True or False: I only need to use stop and think when I have the impulse to do something bad
False. It is always important to stop and think before we act to make sure it's the appropriate time and place for something and to make sure we are in control.
True or False: All feelings are okay to have
True. No feeling is right or wrong, but what we do with that feeling can be. Even when we are emotional we need to use impulse control to still make good choices.
Which is not a good way to handle a problem:
A. Yelling at someone
B. Asking a trusted adult for help
C. Telling someone how you feel with an I-feel statement.
D. Trying something more than once before giving up or asking for help.
A. Yelling at someone
What is a feeling?
An emotion or mood
If you act on your impulses and don't stop and think, are you more likely to have positive consequences or negative consequences?
Negative
What is something I can think/say to myself to help me control my impulses and make a good choice?
Is this the right time and place for this? Could I get in trouble for this? What might happen if I do this? Is this a good choice or a bad choice? How might this make others feel? Slow down and think about this. etc.
What is another word for mad?
Angry, frustrated, annoyed, furious, etc.
Which is a good way to handle a problem?
A. Give up
B. Yell
C. Ask for help
D. Refuse to communicate or do anything/shut down
C. Ask for help