R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
Valuing someone for who they are. It involves showing consideration, kindness and fairness.
What is respect?
Be gentle, express interest, validate, easy going manner.
What is the GIVE skill?
____________ is the only constant
What is change?
The art of taking something problematic and turning it into an asset.
What is making lemonade out of lemons?
Staying on topic and being persistent when asking for something.
What is staying mindful (broken record)?
One's thoughts or experiences are dismissed, rejected, minimized rather than being accepted or understood.
What is invalidation?
A deep feeling of care, connection and commitment. It's a mix of emotion, choice and action.
What is love?
Considering when someone is most able to grant your request.
What is timing?
Deep beliefs and principles that guide how you live.
What are values?
Use this skill to ask for what you want or to say no.
What is dear man?
Recognizing, accepting and understanding someone's feelings even if you don't necessarily agree with them.
What is validation?
I'm miserable in this relationship, yet I stay. These are some of the reasons why.
What is excessive guilt, out of control grief, lack of self compassion, fear of the unknown?
An inner state of calm, peace and acceptance, even when life feels uncertain or difficult.
What is serenity?
Skills to use to 'neutralize' judgmental thinking.
Check The Facts, Observe and Describe those facts
You can be right or you can be?
What is effective?
Facts of a situation, suffering, a person's experiences.
What are important things to validate?
A mindful non-judgmental stance helps to do this when in a conflict.
What is assess personal wishes/goals and what is needed to improve the situation.
Removing something unpleasant in order to increase a behavior.
What is negative reinforcement?
Taking accountability and action to re-build trust.
What is a relationship repair?
Allowing yourself to be fully seen as you truly are, even if it's uncomfortable.
What is vulnerability?
Be Fair, No over Apologing, Stick to Values, Be Truthful
What is the FAST skill?
Recognizing reality as it is without adding opinions or assumptions.
What is a non judgmental stance?
I don't understand. I don't know what to do. Try asking yourself this question.
What is 'what am I missing'?
Rewarding behavior to make it more likely it will happen again.
What is positive reinforcement?
Do this when you have done something wrong and feel bad. And don't over do it!!
What is sincerely apologizing?