Mindfulness
Name the 3 states of mind.
What is wise mind, emotion mind, and reasonable mind? (p.50)
The state of mind we are in when using interpersonal effectiveness skills.
Wise mind (p.50)
The first thing we do before having a conversation with someone.
What is clarifying our priorities? (p.124)
This skill helps us with relationship effectiveness.
What is GIVE? (p.128)
The idea that more than one thing can be true at one time.
What is dialectics? (p.160)
The state of mind we are in when we are ruled by logic, data, and facts.
What is reasonable mind? (p.50)
Objective effectiveness, Relationship effectiveness, and Self-respect effectiveness
What are the 3 priorities we consider in interpersonal situations? (p.124)
There are _______ (number) potential priorities to consider in any interpersonal situation.
What is 3? (p.124)
This skill helps us with self-respect effectiveness.
What is FAST? (p.130)
When we communicate that we understand the other person’s feelings and thoughts about the situation.
What is validation? (p.128-129)
The state of mind we are in when our emotions are totally in control.
What is emotion mind? (p.50)
"I don't deserve to get what I want or need" is an example of _______________, which can get in the way of being interpersonally effective.
What is a myth (or thought/belief)? (p.119)
You use this skill to ask for what you want.
What is DEAR MAN? (p.125-126)
We can use this to figure out how intensely to ask for something or say no to others.
What is the dime game? (p.176)
These are the four main principles of dialectics.
What are:
1. The universe is filled with opposing sides/opposing forces.
2. Everything and every person is connected in some way.
3. Change is the only constant.
4. Change is transactional.
(p.150)
The state of mind we are in when we are considering our emotions and logic.
What is wise mind? (p.50)
You don't have the skills you need, you do not know what you want, emotions, forgetting long-term goals for short-term goals, other people, and myths and beliefs.
What are factors that get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness? (p.118)
This is what the acronym GIVE stands for.
Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, Easy Manner (p.128)
This is what the acronym FAST stands for.
What is (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) Truthful (p.130)
The idea that we can affect our environment and our environment affects us represents what dialectical principal.
What is change is transactional? (p.150)
This is what the acronym DEAR MAN stands for.
What is Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate? (p.125-126)
Scenario: You want to ask your partner to help with cleaning the dishes. Use a DEAR MAN, with some GIVE and FAST skills.
p.125-126, p.128, 130