Interpersonal Effectiveness
What is interpersonal effectiveness?
A: Getting other people to like you
B: Communicating openly and honestly
C: Our ability to interact with other people in a healthy way
D: Having a lot of friends
C: Our ability to interact with other people in a healthy way
DEAR MAN is used to
A: Maintain a good relationship
B: Get what you want
C: Maintain self-respect
D: Get to know someone
B: Get what you want
GIVE combines getting what you want with what?
A: Maintaining a good relationship
B: Being respectful
C: Maintaining self-respect
D: Being Mindful
A: Maintaining a good relationship
Fast combines getting what you want with what?
A: Maintaining a good relationship
B: Being respectful
C: Maintaining self-respect
D: Being Mindful
C: Maintaining self-respect
Describe the proper format of an "I" statement.
I feel ____ when _____ because_____
Which of these is an interpersonal effectiveness myth?
A: I should sacrifice my own needs for others
B: Saying no is selfish
C: I have to know whether the other person is going to say yes before I make a request
D: All of the above
D: All of the above
What does the D in DEAR MAN stand for?
A: Discuss
B: Develop
C: Digest
D: Describe
D: Describe
What does the I in GIVE stand for?
A: Intensity
B: Independence
C: Identify
D: Interested
D: Interested
What does the F in FAST stand for?
A: Friendship
B: Fair
C: Flex
D: Fight
B: Fair
Lack of eye contact, slouched shoulders would indicate what kind of communication style?
Passive
What is a goal of interpersonal effectiveness in DBT?
A: To get more friends
B: To learn specific skills that can improve communication
C: To change yourself into who other people want you to be
D: To learn how to read a room
B: To learn specific skills that can improve communication
What does the E in DEAR MAN stand for:
A: Engage
B: Elevate
C: Express
D: Entertain
C: Express
The V in GIVE stands for Validate. What is an example of validation?
A: Saying thank you
B: Telling someone that their feelings are understandable
C: Listening to someone
D: Giving someone a hug when they're upset
B: Telling someone that their feelings are understandable
What does the A in FAST stand for?
A: (no) Apologies
B: Ask nicely
C: Anticipate
D: (no) Anger
A: (no) Apologies
What communication style uses "You" statements?
Aggressive
What can interpersonal effectiveness skills NOT help with?
A: Effectively lying to others
B: Resolving conflict
C: Asking for what you need
D: Saying no and sticking to it
A: Effectively lying to others
A: Ask
B: Assert
C: Allow
D: Alter
B: Assert
If you're asking staff for something but you're yelling at them, which GIVE skill are you NOT using?
A: Gentle
B: Involved
C: Validate
D: Easy manner
A: Gentle
What does the S in FAST stand for?
A: Stand up for yourself
B: Stay calm
C: Speak respectfully
A: Stick to your values
D: Stick to your values
What are the 3 states of mind and what are each of their characteristics?
emotion mind- when a person's feelings control their thoughts or behaviors (impulsive)
reasonable mind-when a person approaches a situation intellectually, using and making decisions based on facts.
Wise mind- a balance between the reasonable and emotional halves. In wise mind we are able to recognize and respect feelings while responding to them in an appropriate manner.
Name something that can get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness.
Emotions (difficulty communicating/knowing what you want)
Environment (location, timing, reactions of others)
Indecisivness
Lack of Skills
Plus a million other things!
DEAR is how you _______ and MAN helps with ________
A: get what you want; making your DEAR successful
B: ask for things; mindfulness
C: get what you want; reinforcing what you want
A: get what you want; making your DEAR successful
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
A: Being kind
B: Emotion regulation
C: Maintaining a good relationship
D: Putting yourself in their shoes
C: Maintaining a good relationship
What does the T in FAST stand for?
A: Talk openly
B: Take care
C: Tell the truth
D: Try your best
C: Tell the truth
You're at a restaurant and the server brought you the wrong dish. How would you communicate to the server that there has been a mistake? Provide an example for each of the communication styles (passive, aggressive, assertive)
passive ex: (doesnt say anything to the server) or quietly asks the server about the mistake, doing a lot of over apologizing. possibly saying "i can just eat this dish"
aggressive ex: is rude to the server and calls them out, demands a new dish, a refund or uses threats such as speaking to your manager and getting you fired.
assertive ex: calls the server over when they see them, inquiries about the dish and asks about the mistake, listens, makes compromise with server. is not shy or loud.