Clarifying Priorities
Ture or false: the priority triangle does not move during interpersonal situations?
False the priorities can always be moving!
TRUE/FALSE: DEAR MAN can only be used to ask for a request
FALSE - DEAR MAN can be used to say no to an unwanted or unreasonable request
True/False: when practicing GIVE, it's important to attack, threaten, judge, and sneer at the person
False!
True/False: if your self-respect is on the line, it should intensify your reasoning for saying no to a request
What national day is it? ex. national pizza day, flagday...
Banana bread!!
Asking yourself, "how do I want to feel about myself after the interaction is over?" is an example of maintaining your_____ .
Self-respect
How can you respond if a person continues to ask for an unwanted request using this skill?
"Please don't ask me again. My answer won't change."
some examples
What does validation mean and what does it not mean??
Validation means seeing another persons perspective, opinion but it does not mean agreeing with the other person
True/False: you should apologize for disagreeing with someone's opinion
False - there's no reason to apologize for having your own opinion
Use dearman to challenge someone to rock, paper, scissors
Did you do it?!
what does interpersonal mean?
Relationships/ relationships with others
Fill in the blank: when Describing, it is important to stick to the ______.
facts
True/false: Validation can only be verbal
False - validation can be nonverbal, such as paying attention
When practicing FAST, to be truthful means to ______.
Not lie
When is Arizona's Bday?
Hint it's this month
Valentines day!!!
name all 3 priorities/ goals that come with these skills
maintain or better the relationship
maintain your self respect
getting what you want
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, stay Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
What does GIVE stand for?
be Gentle, act Interested, Validate, use an Easy manner
When practicing FAST, is it important to be fair to myself or the other person?
BOTH! Remember to validate your own feelings and wishes, as well as the other person's
In detail describe one skill you notice in the beauty and the beast scene. (at least 4 things)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFjGGZecO04
30-1:30
4 things
Role Play!! You want to go to homecoming with someone from your class you have never talked to before.
OMG which skill are we going to use!
Did you do it??
Role play!! Your child wants to stay out late on a Friday night with some friends.
role play with your partner
Did you do it?!
Role Play!! Your best friend just got dumped :( use this skill to be there for them!!
did you do it?
Role Play!! You are with your friends at the park and picking teams to play kickball. They group together and start saying mean things about the new kid because they think she doesnt know how to play and will be the reason they lose the game. Stick to your values and stand up for bullying!
Did you do it?!
Your teacher made a big scoring error on a test and gave you a 50% when it should have been 90%. You have tried to email him but he hasn't responded.
What skill did you use and did you do it?!