Communication
What ways can we as humans communicate with each other?
Talking, using sign language, using body language, listening, texting, email, writting
What is the goal when using GIVE?
What is keeping a good relationship or relationship effectiveness
What is codependency?
Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as 'the giver,' feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as 'the taker.
When might we use evaluating options?
What is when we are trying to consider how strongly to ask or say no to something.
Name a skill that has been most helpful to you.
Various answers
Which of these is an ASSERTIVE statement:
I'm upset you didn't listen when I told you about my day.
I would like you to listen to me when I'm talking about my day.
What is "I would like you to listen to me when I'm talking about my day."
Smiling is an example of this step in GIVE
What is use an Easy manner
What are the negative effects of codepedency?
True or False: We don't need to consider all the facts of a situation before saying yes or no to something.
False. It is more effective to do our homework and know the facts.
A woman is in a burning building and she is looking out the window, a baby in her arms. A fireman looks up and sees the scene before him. Which would be a more validating response:
The fireman telling the woman, "Wow that looks scary!" or,
The fireman goes to save the woman and her baby.
True or False, you must actually be confident in order to assert yourself.
What is false, you only have to ACT confident.
Define validation
What is showing through words or actions that you understand the other person's feelings, point of view, thoughts, or actions
What popular villain from a Pixar film was codependent on the super hero he looked up to as a young kid? (let me know if you need a hint)
Syndrome (the Incredibles)
True or False: When you are asking for something, you would raise the intensity of asking.
What is true.
False. We want to make sure you are coming and that you are safe!
Why is cultural awareness important in communication?
a) To impose one’s cultural values on others
b) To avoid any communication with people from different cultures
c) To understand and respect cultural differences
d) To promote misunderstandings and conflicts
Answer: c) To understand and respect cultural differences
Name each step in GIVE
What is be Gentle, act Interested, Validate, use an Easy manner
Empathy brings connection, understanding, and positive change, codependency can leave you empty, resentful, and drained.
Identify four factors to consider for evaluating options.
What is Capability, Priorities, Self-respect, Rights, Authority, Relationship, Goals, Give and Take, Homework, and Timing
True or False: You should use phone coaching for when you need help with homework and what skills to use in the moment.
True.
What are the consequences of not communicating your thoughts, emotions, or needs?
Possibly blowing up on someone, engaging in sel-harm, may feel alone
If your sibling asks you to watch her kids for the third night in a row, and you would rather have a night at home to yourself, what is your relationship effectiveness goal?
Various answers, could be: Keep sibling liking you, seek understanding from sibling about your time and energy, etc.
What do co dependents crave?
Instead of praise, codependents often crave gratitude and a sense of “being needed.” Almost everyone wants to feel loved or important.
What is Wise Mind.
What does it mean to be dialectical?
What is considering both sides to be true at the same time.