ORS
What is objective, relationship, and self-respect?
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DEARMAN
What is describe, express, assert, reinforce, mindful, appear confident, and negotiate?
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FAST
What is fair, apologies, stick to values, and truthful?
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GIVE
What is gentle, interested, validate, and easy manner?
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DBT
What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy?
Build relationships and end destructive ones.
What is a goal of interpersonal effectiveness?
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Skill used for keeping respect for yourself.
What is FAST?
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Skill used when you want to keep the relationship.
What is GIVE?
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Skill used for getting what you want.
What is DEARMAN?
Page 106
The roof, three pillars, and foundation of the DBT house.
What is a life worth living (roof), distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness (foundation)?
Dialectics, validation, recovering from invalidation, and strategies for changing behavior.
What is walking the middle path?
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A relationship that blocks or makes it difficult for you to pursue goal that are important to you; your ability to enjoy life and do things you like doing; your relationships with other persons; or the welfare of others that you love.
What is an interfering relationship?
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Skill you would use to troubleshoot and practice ending the relationship ahead of time.
What is cope ahead?
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A relationship that has the quality of destroying or completely spoiling either the quality of the relationship or aspects of yourself- such as your physical body and safety, your self-esteem or sense of integrity, your happiness or peace of mind, or caring for the other person.
What is a destructive relationship?
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Rational, Wise, Emotion
What are states of mind?
The 5 Love Languages
What are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch?
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Dependent on the opinions of others, difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others, and accepting of abuse or disrespect.
What are traits of porous boundaries?
From handout.
The limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships.
What are personal boundaries?
From handout.
Keeps others at a distance to avoid possibility of rejection, unlikely to ask for help, and may seem detached.
What are traits of rigid boundaries?
From handout.
When two seemingly conflicting things are true at the same time.
What is a dialectic?
Deflecting responsibility, manipulation, belittling, and isolation.
What are signs of an unhealthy relationship?
From handout.
You can want to change and be doing the best you can AND still need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change.
What is an example of opposite sides that can both be true?
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Look for both sides, be aware that you are connected, embrace change, and change is transactional.
What is how to think and act dialectically?
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Equality, honesty, independence, and taking responsibility.
What are signs of a healthy relationship?
From worksheet.
Focuses on helping people accept the reality of their lives and their behaviors, as well as helping them learn to change their lives, including their unhelpful behaviors.
What is DBT?