Mindfulness
Name the 3 states of mind.
What is wise mind, emotion mind, and reasonable mind? (p.50)
The state of mind we are in when using interpersonal effectiveness skills.
Wise mind (p.50)
There are _______ (number) potential priorities to consider in any interpersonal situation.
What is 3? (p.124)
This skill helps us with relationship effectiveness.
What is GIVE? (p.128)
The idea that more than one thing can be true at one time.
What is dialectics? (p.160)
The state of mind we are in when we are ruled by logic, data, and facts.
What is reasonable mind? (p.50)
Objective effectiveness, Relationship effectiveness, and Self-respect effectiveness
What are the 3 priorities we consider in interpersonal situations? (p.124)
You use this skill to ask for what you want.
What is DEAR MAN? (p.125-126)
This skill helps us with self-respect effectiveness.
What is FAST? (p.130)
A skill we use when we feel stuck in our relationships/during an argument or feeling hopeless.
What is dialectics? (p.160)
The state of mind we are in when our emotions are totally in control.
What is emotion mind? (p.50)
1. Be skillful in getting what i want and need from others
2. Build relationships and ending destructive ones
3. Walk the middle path
What are the goals of the interpersonal effectiveness module?
What does the acronym GIVE stand for?
Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, Easy Manner (p.128)
What does the acronym FAST stand for?
What is (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) Truthful (p.130)
These are the four main principles of dialectics.
What are:
1. The universe is filled with opposing sides/opposing forces.
2. Everything and every person is connected in some way.
3. Change is the only constant.
4. Change is transactional.
(p.150)
The state of mind we are in when we are considering our emotions and logic.
What is wise mind? (p.50)
You don't have the skills you need, you do not know what you want, emotions, forgetting long-term goals for short-term goals, other people, and myths and beliefs.
What are factors that get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness? (p.118)
What does the acronym DEAR MAN stand for?
What is Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate? (p.125-126)
When we communicate that we understand a person's feelings, thoughts, perspective, and/or behavior (even if we don't agree).
What is validation? (p.128-129).
I can accept myself and want to change at the same time.
What is an example of a dialectic?
I am willing to share my decisions with others, i feel centered, steady, and nonjudgmental of my decision.
What is making a decision from wise mind?
"I don't deserve to get what I want or need" is an example of _______________, which can get in the way of being interpersonally effective.
What is a myth (or thought/belief)? (p.119)
The first thing we do before having a conversation with someone.
What is clarifying our priorities? (p.124)
Scenario: You want to ask your partner to help with cleaning the dishes. Use a DEAR MAN, with some GIVE and FAST skills.
p.125-126, p.128, 130
Scenario: My friend is feeling down and asked me to come over. I feel exhausted and want to rest. What is a dialectical synthesis? (not a compromise)
Options:
Do a short phone call tonight so they can rest after, and then plan something in person tomorrow
Invite friend over for low key activity
Others?