DEARMAN
True or False: dearman can be used to ask your boss for a deadline extension
true
GIVE stands for...
Gentle: no attacks, threats, or judgment.
Interested: listen actively, show you care.
Validate: acknowledge the other person’s feelings and views.
Easy manner: use humor, a smile, or a soft tone when appropriate.
What does FAST stand for?
Fair: be fair to yourself and others.
Apologies: don’t over-apologize or apologize for having needs.
Stick to values: stay true to what's important to you.
Truthful: don’t lie or exaggerate.
How would you validate someone?
reflecting their statements and naming their emotions are two ways of validating someone
True or False? DEARMAN is used to help keep the relationship
False: It is used in getting what you want
How would you "be gentle" to a friend that you forgot to text back (and is hurt by it)?
say something like: "I'm really sorry I didn't respond, I didn't mean to hurt you by it"
FAST is used for keeping respect for yourself
True
What is Middle Path Thinking?
Two things can be true at the same time
Give an example of appearing confident
eye contact, good posture etc.
What is it called when you are completely locked in a conversation with someone? You are "_____ _____" to them...
actively listening
What is people-pleasing?
People-pleasing refers to the tendency to prioritize others’ happiness, approval, or validation—often at the expense of your own needs, values, or boundaries
Middle path is the middle of what two states of mind?
reasonable and emotion mind
What does DEARMAN stand for?
Describe: the situation clearly and objectively.
Express: your feelings and opinions using "I" statements.
Assert: what you need, want, or say no to.
Reinforce: the benefits of meeting your request.
Mindful: stay focused, ignore distractions or attacks.
Appear confident: through body language and tone.
Negotiate: be willing to compromise.
True or False: Talking through a discussion always escalates the tension
false!
True or False? The "A" mean's no over apologizing
True
True or False: when you validate someone, it means you agree with what they are saying
false!
True or False: DEARMAN is used to avoid passive or aggressive responses
true
What does walking the middle path help reduce in relationships?
conflict