Mindfulness
What are the 3 What Skills of Mindfulness
Observe, Describe, Participate
What are the 3 dynamics in interpersonal effectiveness? Think triangle
Relationships with Others-How I want my relationship to be with others
Self respectHow I want to feel about self
Objective-getting my goal met
When would you use FAST skills?
Maintain self-respect
Why would you use DEARMAN skills?
Get something that you want, to make a request, to say no
When would you use GIVE skills?
Build and maintain positive relationships
What are the 3 How Skills of Mindfulness
Non judgemental
Focused-Present moment
Effectiveness-do what works
What is it called when there is a duality in a relationship? Example: Wanting to be there for someone and at the same time wanting to alone for awhile?
Dialectic Dilemma
Name on of the four FAST skills
Be Fair
No apologies
Stick to Values
Be Truthful
Name one of the DEAR in Dearman skills
Describe
Express
Assert
Reinforce
What is one of the 4 GIVE skills?
Be Gentle
Act Interested
Validate
Have an easy manner
What does one mindfully mean?
Being aware of what one is thinking, feeling, doing one thing in the moment
What skill do we use when we jump to conclusions, assume the worst about others, have problems with considering other people's view points?
THINK
Think, Interpretations, Notice, Kindness
When being fair, who(m) are you fair to?
Yourself and/or others
Name one of the MAN in the Dearman skills
Mindful
Appear Confident
Negoitate
Not attacking and being respectful are examples of which of the 4 GIVE skills
Be gentle
How does a person feel when they have been should upon?
Usually bad, sad, criticized, defeated and etc
What is one barrier that can get in the way of achieving your goals in relationships?
1. Lack of skill knowledge
2. Worry thoughts
3. High emotions interfering with objectives
4. Undecided
5. Unable to accept the situations/environment
When you sell out and give in to avoid conflict or to fit in are examples of not using which FAST skill?
Stick to your values
Repeat, request again, broken record, stay on point
Understanding the other person's feelings or opinions are examples of which GIVE skill?
Validate
What are the 3 states of mind?
Reasonable, Wise and Emotional
What are you doing when you ask which of the 3 goals (self, others, objectives) is most important?
Prioritizing
What is an example of not being truthful in the FAST skills?
Lying
Pretending to be helpless when you are not
Making up excuses
What is one thing you can do to appear confident and taken seriously?
1. Controlled tone of voice
2. Make eye contact
3. Straight posture
4. Physical appearance
Rolling your eyes, yawning, interrupting and changing the subject are examples of not using which GIVE skill?
Act Interested