Basics
What is the primary goal for using GIVE?
Maintaining positive relationships
Your parent will not let you hang out with your friends because they don’t trust you to be safe on your own due to their concerns about your mental health.
Which skill best applies to this scenario and why? (GIVE, FAST, DEARMAN, or THINK)
DEARMAN because it helps you make a request by communicating the situation, your feelings, and a change you would like to make.
What does F.A.S.T. stand for?
(be) Fair
(no) Apologies
Stick to your values
Truthful
Name 3 ways you can act interested when using the GIVE skill
Nodding
Listen carefully
Avoid interrupting
Ask questions
Open body language
"Maybe it wasn't personal. They might not have been paying attention. It's possible they didn't realize I was hurt."
Which part of THINK is shown here?
Think or Interpretations
What is the primary goal for using FAST?
Setting boundaries/maintaining self-respect
Your school counselor says you should take advanced classes this year so you can graduate faster. But you just started going to therapy and really need to prioritize your mental health.
Which skill best applies to this scenario and why? (GIVE, FAST, DEARMAN, or THINK)
FAST because it helps to maintain self-respect. A boundary needs to be set.
What does D.E.A.R. stand for (part of DEARMAN)?
Describe
Express
Assert
Reinforce
What are 2 challenges when using interpersonal effectiveness skills?
The other person might be disrespectful or not listen
We have to practice them to get better
It can feel unnatural
It's hard to remember the acronyms
"I understand why you're frustrated. This is a really tough situation. Your feelings are real."
Which part of GIVE is shown here?
Validate
What is the primary goal for using DEARMAN?
Asking for what you want
Your friend says it hurts their feelings when you ignore them
Which TWO skills can apply in this situation? (GIVE, FAST, DEARMAN, and THINK)
GIVE (repairing a relationship by apologizing) and THINK (reducing conflicts by using empathy)
What does T.H.I.N.K. stand for?
Think
Have empathy
Interpretations
Notice
Kindness
Name 3 ways you can appear confident when using the DEARMAN skill
Speak clearly
Open body posture
Looking towards the person
"If you agree to call me whenever you're running late, it will help build trust between us. And it will make our communication stronger overall."
Which part of DEARMAN is shown here?
Reinforce (explaining why the desire will benefit both people)
What is the primary goal for using THINK?
Reducing conflict/managing thoughts
You made a joke that you thought was funny, but your friend says the joke actually hurt their feelings.
Which skill best applies to this scenario and why? (GIVE, FAST, DEARMAN, or THINK)
GIVE because it helps with maintaining relationships. An effective apology involves being gentle, interested, validating, and using an easy manner.
What does M.A.N. stand for (part of DEARMAN)?
Mindful
Appear confident
Negotiate
Name 3 ways you can have empathy when using the THINK skill
Imagine how you might feel from their perspective
Don't define the whole person based on 1 behavior
Remember that people make mistakes
Think of times you may have acted similarly
"I want to be responsible and take care of my mental health. It is important for me to feel proud of myself."
Which part of FAST is shown here?
Stick to your values
Name the 4 core areas of DBT
Mindfulness
Distress Tolerance
Emotional Regulation
Interpersonal Effectiveness
You and your sibling are arguing over the lights in the room. They say it is too overstimulating and you believe they are overreacting.
Which skill best applies to this scenario and why? (GIVE, FAST, DEARMAN, or THINK)
THINK because it helps with reducing conflict. Practicing empathy can help see things from another person's perspective.
What does G.I.V.E. stand for?
Gentle
Interested
Validate
Easy manner
Name 3 ways you can be Fair when using the FAST skill
Avoid blaming them
Avoid teasing them
Use respectful language
Use respectful tone
Use "I feel" statements
"Yesterday I missed the deadline for a project because an unexpected family situation came up. I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed and embarrassed about it. I was wondering if it's possible to get an extension for it? With the extra time, my assignment will be better quality. I'm only focusing on this one project and I can assure you it is really important to me. If the extension is not possible, hopefully we can discuss a different way I can improve my grade."
Which skill is shown here?
DEARMAN
DESCRIBE - Yesterday I missed the deadline for a project because an unexpected family situation came up.
EXPRESS - I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed and embarrassed about it.
ASSERT - I was wondering if it's possible to get an extension for it?
REINFORCE - With the extra time, my assignment will be better quality.
MINDFUL - I'm only focusing on this one project
APPEAR CONFIDENT - I can assure you it is really important to me.
NEGOTIATE - If the extension is not possible, hopefully we can discuss a different way I can improve my grade.