Boundaries
What interpersonal effectiveness skill is used to communicate boundaries effectively?
DEARMAN
To show that someone's feelings and experiences are real and make sense is known as what?
Validation
GIVE stands for..
Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy manner
Bucky is asked not to invade Bunny's personal space. Instead of backing up, Bucky gets closer, stands taller, makes intense eye contact, and says he'll do what he wants. What communication style is Bucky demonstrating?
Aggressive communication
Name 3 forms of non-verbal communication.
Gestures, body language, facial expressions, tone, fidgets, eye contact.
Hughy has the boundary that she doesn't want people she doesn't know invading her personal bubble. This is an example of what type of boundary?
Physical Boundary
Name 2 tips from the "How to" guide for validation.
Pay attention, reflect back, 'read minds', understand, acknowledge the valid, show equality.
FAST stands for...
Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to your values, Truthful
Cubby is listening to Cricket vent about his day. Cubby rolls his eyes but listens. Later on Cubby complains to his friends about how annoying Cricket is. What communication style is Cubby demonstrating?
Passive-aggressive communication
Beliefs and principles that guide your goals, decision making, and behaviors are called what?
Personal/Core Values
What are 3 examples of emotional boundaries?
free response
(making fun of someone's emotions, invalidating someone's feelings, avoiding certain topics that are distressing, triggering behaviors)
To avoid "one-upping" or "one-downing" is part of which tip to validation?
Show Equality
DEARMAN stands for...
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate
Pepper is asked to a party this weekend. She doesn't want to go and has other things to do that day, but she agrees to go because she doesn't want to disappoint her friends. What communication style is Pepper demonstrating?
Passive communication
Describe active listening.
Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal communication, good eye contact, no interruption or distractions, listen to understand.
This part of the DEARMAN skill is where you would communicate how something made you feel.
Express
Why do we want to avoid invalidating others?
free response
(hurtful, harms relationships, causes mistrust, makes them not want to open up to you, can make them question their own experiences)
THINK stands for...
Think, Have empathy, Interpret, Notice, Kindness
Wolfie uses clear and direct tone, expresses his needs and feelings, is open to other opinions, and willing to compromise when needed. What communication style does Wolfie demonstrate?
Assertive communication
Name 3 of the 6 factors to consider when making a request or responding to a request.
Priorities, capability, timeliness, preparation, relationship, give & take.
Name 3 of your own personal boundaries.
free response
While scrolling through TikToks, your friend calls to tell you how excited they are because they're going to Disney for vacation. You've never been to Disney and you're feeling jealous. How can you validate your friend in this scenario?
free response
(stop watching TikToks, be excited for them despite you never going, match their energy, no one-downing or one-upping)
Describe what no Apologies means in the FAST skill.
No over- or under-apologizing. Don't apologize for having feelings, an opinion, boundaries, different ideas, etc. Only apologize when its truly warranted and you mean it.
Describe the communication style you relate to the most and why.
free response
Why is it important to be aware of your own personal boundaries?
free response
(They set limitations to what's acceptable and not acceptable. Knowing your own helps you understand your limits, communicate them, and be clear and assertive when they are crossed.)