Effectiveness
Doing what works
what is effectiveness?
multitasking gets in the way of
what is mindfulness
The acronym for interpersonal effectiveness when the relationship is a top priority
What is GIVE
obtaining your legitimate rights, getting someone to do something you want, resolving an interpersonal conflict
What are goals of objective effectiveness
reason mind, wise mind, emotion mind
what are the three states of mind/
Saying no to a request is always selfish
What is a myth that gets in the way of interpersonal effectiveness?
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
If you're asking a friend for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
What impacts the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)
What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, what else is missing
What is relationship effectiveness.
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, even if you don't agree with them
What is Validate
The DBT acronym to remember for objective effectiveness
DEAR MAN
describe, express, be assertive, Reinforce, be mindful
appear confident, negotiate
obtaining your goal vs keeping a relationship vs maintaining self respect are
what are priorities
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
NAME ALL THE GIVE SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner
looking at a situation without emotion or trying to change is
What is what is observe