Getting what we want while keeping our relationships and our self-respect.
100
This is the definition of objectiveness.
What is getting what we want.
100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100
Brooks' birthday is in this month
October
200
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
200
"What will my friend's think?" or "I'd probably screw it up anyway" are examples of these things that get in the way of objective effectiveness
What are worry thoughts.
200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200
Michael used to live in this state
California
300
A want is something you do because you feel like it, and a should is something you do because...
You have to do it.
300
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300
If you're asking staff for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
300
how do you say thank you in spanish?
gracious
400
When someone is asking too much of you, this balance is off.
What is priorities vs. demands.
400
What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)
What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.
400
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
400
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
What is relationship effectiveness.
400
Where does Becca go to school?
Beechwood
500
If you don't have balance in your priorities vs. demands or your wants vs. shoulds, this happens
What is you get overwhelmed and "blow up".
500
Katie THINKING ABOUT slamming a rude person's head into the desk is an example of this.