Effectiveness
What is effectively?
Doing what works to achieve our goals.
What skill is used to attain an objective or specific goal in a particular situation?
DEAR MAN!
What skill is used to maintain relationship effectiveness?
GIVE!
What skill is used to maintain self-respect?
FAST!
What is the main goal of of using interpersonal effectiveness skills?
To learn how to be effective in interpersonal interactions and to achieve our goals without alienating the other person or losing self-respect.
What is objective effectiveness?
Attaining your objective or specific goal in a particular situation; the objective is the reason for the interaction in the first place.
What does the DEAR stand for in DEAR MAN?
What does GIVE stand for?
Be gentle; act interested; validate; use easy manner.
What does FAST stand for?
Name at least one factor that reduces interpersonal effectiveness.
Lack of Needed Skills; Indecision; Interference from Emotions; Short-Term Goals Over Long-Term Goals; Interference from the Environment; Interpersonal Myths; and Interplay of Factors.
What is relationship effectiveness?
Keeping or improving the relationship, while at the same time trying to achieve your goal in the interaction.
What does the MAN stand for in DEAR MAN?
Stay Mindful; Appear Confident; Negotiate.
What are examples of being easy manner?
Try to be lighthearted, use a little humor, smile, ease the other person along, soothe, be political.
What does it mean to be fair?
To be fair to yourself and the other person in your attempts to get what you want. Validate your own feelings and wishes as well as the other person’s.
Why do we want to be dialectical in interpersonal situations?
We want to be dialectical because it helps us stay away from extremes and walk the middle path in our thinking and actions. It can also help us resolve disagreements and search for the truth to maintain relationships and self-respect.
What is self-respect effectiveness?
Maintaining or improving your respect for yourself, and respecting your own values and beliefs, while you try to attain your objectives.
What are examples of when you would use DEAR MAN?
Examples: Getting others to do what you ask them to do; saying no to unwanted requests and making it stick; Resolving interpersonal conflict or making changes in relationships; Getting your rights respected; Getting your opinion or point of view taken seriously.
What are the four ways we can be gentle in an interpersonal situation?
No attacks; no threats; no judging; no disrespect.
True or False.
Telling a white lie needs to be done mindfully.
Why do we want to be validating in interpersonal situations?
Validation of others’ feelings, beliefs, experiences, and actions is essential to building any relationship of trust and intimacy.
What are the 3 potential goals in interpersonal situations?
Objective effectiveness; relationship effectiveness; and self-respect effectiveness.
What are the two techniques used to stay mindful?
Broken record; ignoring attacks and diversion.
What is validation?
Communicating that the other person’s feelings, thoughts, and actions are understandable to you, given their past or current situations.
How do you maintain self-respect?
Sticking to your values; Avoid selling out your values or integrity to get your objective or to keep a person liking you. Be clear on what, in your opinion, is the moral or valued way of thinking and acting, and hold on to your position.
Name at least one factor to consider when figuring out how to strongly ask or say no.
Capability; Priorities; Self-Respect; Rights; Relationship; Long-Term Versus Short-Term Goals; Reciprocity; Homework; and Timelines.