DEAR MAN
GIVE-FAST
Miscellaneous
Healthy Relationships
Name that skill
100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100

When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.

What are FAST skills.

100

This is an example of a cheer leading statement I use!

ex: "i can do this!"

100

The Four Horsemen are

What are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling?

100

John just asked Larry to mail drugs to someone. Larry doesn't want to. Which skill should Larry use to say no.

What is FAST

200
The first step in DEAR MAN is...
Describe the situation.
200
What does the I in GIVE stand for (give an example)
Act Interested (maintain eye contact, don't let your thoughts wander, etc.)
200
When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
200

The number of positive to negative interactions do you need to have a healthy relationship bank account

What is 5:1 ratio?

200

Lisa wants Joe to help more with the dishes which skill should she use?

What is DEARMAN?

300

What's an example of Reinforcing your request?

Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"

300
If you're asking staff for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
300
What are TWO THINGS that impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timelessness, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
300

ORS help us to clarify our priorities and help guide us to know which skill to use. It stands for...

What is Objective Effectiveness, Relationship Effectiveness, and Self-Respect Effectiveness?

300

Jack's wife has been upset because he's been staying at work for long hours. What skill should Jack use with his wife?

What is GIVE?

400

The "R" in DEARMAN is for Reinforce, which means

What is to point out to the other person what's in it for them (benefit) of giving you what you want, or negative consequence if they don't. 

400
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?
What is relationship effectiveness.
400
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
400

You're right and I'm right is an example of what type of thinking necessary to maintain a healthy relationship?

What is dialectical thinking?

400

The part of the DEARMAN skill where you can reach a compromise.

What is Negotiate?

500
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
500
NAME ALL THE GIVE FAST SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
500

Lying is one thing to avoid when you're using the Truthful skill in FAST, what's the other thing you want to avoid?

What is over apologizing.

500

These factors are considered when deciding on intensely to ask for something or say no

What are Capability, Priorities, Self-Respect, Rights, and Authority.

500

The part of the GIVE skill where you can show some humor and smile, leaving your ego at the door.

What is Easy Manner.

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