Effectiveness
What is effectiveness?
Doing what works or what is needed to achieve a goal
This is the definition of objective effectiveness.
What is getting what we want.
multitasking gets in the way of
what is mindfulness
The skill needed from interpersonal effectiveness when the relationship is a top priority
What is GIVE
What are goals of objective effectiveness?
Obtaining your legitimate rights, getting someone to do something you want, resolving an interpersonal conflict
what are the three states of mind?
reason mind, wise mind, emotion mind
What is a myth that gets in the way of interpersonal effectiveness?
Example like... Saying no to a request is always selfish
You use DEAR MAN for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
If you're asking a friend for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this part of GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
What factors impact the level of intensity for asking for or saying no to something?
Ex: priorities, the relationship, self respect, capability, timing, homework, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, give and take.
True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.
What is FALSE
What's an example of an interpersonal myth and a challenge for it?
Share example
If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, what else is missing
What is relationship effectiveness.
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, even if you don't agree with them - what skill are you using?
Validation
The DBT acronym to remember for objective effectiveness
DEAR MAN
describe, express, be assertive, Reinforce, be mindful
appear confident, negotiate
What are the three interpersonal priorities?
Obtaining your goal/objective, maintaining a relationship, maintaining self respect
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
NAME ALL THE GIVE SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner
Looking at a situation/object/moment and just noticing aspects of it with your five senses, without trying to change or judge it is what skill?
Observe