Goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness/Evaluating Options
What are the 3 Types of clarifying goals in Interpersonal Effectiveness?
Objective, Relationship, and Self-Respect Effectiveness
When should you use DEARMAN?
When you want something or need to say NO to something being asked
GIVE is used when trying to achieve which type of effectiveness?
Relationship Effectiveness
You should use FAST when trying to achieve what type of effectiveness?
Self-Respect
What is the goal of DBT?
Create a Life Worth Living
Attaining your objective or goal is what type of effectiveness?
Objective
What does D stand for in DEARMAN?
Describe
What does G stand for in GIVE?
Gentle
What does the A stand for in FAST?
No Apologies
What does SUDS stand for?
Subjective Units of Distress Scale
What are 3 factors that reduce interpersonal effectiveness?
Lack of Skill, Indecision, Emotions, Prioritizing short term over long term goals, Worry Thoughts, Environment
The A in DEARMAN means ASSERT, what does it mean to Assert yourself?
State exactly what you want or need or saying NO clearly
What does I stand for in GIVE?
Act Interested
The S stands for "Stick to Personal Values," what are personal values?
Personal values are the beliefs and principles that guide your actions and decisions
On the SUDS scale the 1 is for __________ distress, and the is for ____________ distress.
No, Most
Maintaining or improving the respect you have for yourself and respecting your own values and beliefs is which type of effectiveness?
What does the MAN portion of DEARMAN stand for?
Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate
What does V stand for in GIVE?
Validate
The A in FAST stands for "No Apologies," How can over-apologizing damage your self-respect?
Apologies imply that you are wrong or you’ve made a mistake. Over time, your sense of mastery is reduced. Can negatively affect your self-esteem/self-worth
What are the 4 skills training modules of DBT?
Mindfulness, Distress Tolerance, Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness
What are 3 factors that should be considered when evaluating options related to Interpersonal Effectiveness skills?
Priorities, Timeliness, Capability
Are you supposed to pick and choose which letters of DEARMAN you want to use in a situation?
How can you validate others in an interaction?
1.Actively listen: Make eye contact and stay focused. Be mindful of both nonverbal and verbal reactions in order to avoid being invalidating.
2.Reflect back what the person says – “You are saying he did not understand you.”
3.Verbalize the unspoken emotions: Observe what the other person is feeling – look for a word that describes that feeling “I see you are disappointed”
4.Look for how the feeling, thought and action makes sense given the person’s history and situation.
5.Share how the feeling makes sense in general.
6.Respond in a way that shows you are taking the other person seriously, respond in a genuine way.
What does the T in FAST stand for? Why is it sometimes difficult to do this?
TRUTHFUL
Often people are not truthful because they want to avoid the pain of the consequences of their actions.
What is a Dialectic?
Dialectic means two opposing things being true at once.