Effectiveness
True or false it is always important to put other people's needs before our own.
What is False
What is a myth about interpersonal effectiveness?
objective effectiveness helps us
Get what we want from another person
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
Not having these can get in the way of interpersonal effectiveness
What are interpersonal skills
Acting in a way that the other person keeps liking and respecting you, balancing immediate goals with the good of the long-term relationship, maintaining important relationships are all goals of
What are goals of relationship effectiveness
obtaining your legitimate rights, getting someone to do something you want, resolving an interpersonal conflict
What are goals of objective effectiveness
What does the G in GIVE stand for (give an example)
what is be Gentle
When I Express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...
What is DEAR MAN
Saying no to a request is always selfish
What is a myth that gets ion the way of interpersonal effectiveness?
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
If you're asking a friend for something and you're yelling at them, you're not using this GIVE skill.
What is be gentle.
What is an example of something that can impact the level of asking or saying no to something.
Ex: What are priorities, the relationship, self-respect, capability, timelessness, authority, rights, long vs. short term goals, and respect.
What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)
What is talk yourself out of the myth or just do it/experiment.
Name a goal of interpersonal effectiveness.
What is getting what you want/need from others
Improving/maintaining relationships
ending destructive relationships
maintaining balance in relationships (walking the middle path
obtaining your goal vs keeping a relationship vs maintaining self respect are
what are priorities
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
NAME ALL THE GIVE or FAST SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner
(be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
Examples of Expanding the Validate in GIVE
What is look interested, make eye contact, reflect back, pay attention to non-verbal communication, try to understand, acknowledge the valid, treat the other person as equal