Effectiveness
Communication
DEAR MAN
GIVE-FAST
RANDOM
100
This is the definition of effectiveness.
Getting what we want while keeping our relationships and our self-respect.
100

Move gradually closer to the group, go up and introduce yourself, stand beside them and chip in on their conversation 

What are ways of joining an open group? 

100
We use DEAR MAN skills when we...
Want to achieve our objective (ask for something or say no)
100
When you want to keep your self respect, you use these skills.
What are FAST skills.
100

Balancing opposites while entering the paradox of "yes" and "no", "true" and "not true", at the very same time.

What is Dialectics?

200
You use interpersonal effectiveness for these two things.
Asking for something or saying no to something.
200

Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and opinions in a way that makes your views and needs clearly understood by others, without putting down their thoughts, feelings, or opinions.

What is assertive communication?

200

When I express how I feel about something before I ask for it, I'm using a skill from...

What is DEAR MAN?

200

Name 3 ways you can act interested

What is...eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding, facing your body toward the person

200

Look for people who are close by you and similar to you

What is Finding and getting people to like you?

300

You dont know what you want, Emotions are getting in the way, Forget long-term vs short-term goals, other people are getting in your way 

What are factors that interfere with interpersonal effectiveness?

300

True or false: we can always get what we want, somehow.

What is FALSE

300
What's an example of Reinforcing your request?
Ex: "I'll be happy" or "You'll really help me out" or "I'll really appreciate it"
300

When you are smiling and using humor you are using this skill.

What is easy manner?

300

Being ignored, misunderstood, misread, misinterpreted, unequal treatment, private experience being denied

What is invalidation?

400

If you've gotten what you want AND kept your self respect, but you've really upset the person you were asking something of, what objective have you lost sight of?

What is relationship effectiveness.

400

What's a way to get rid of interpersonal effectiveness myth (remember, a myth is something like "if I don't _____, people will think I'm _____)

What is challenging Myths in the way of interpersonal effectiveness 

400
The "M" in MAN stands for this (please explain)
What is Mindfully
400

Pay attention, reflect back, "read minds", understand, acknowledge the valid, show equality

What are levels of validation? 

400
When you tell someone that you understand their feelings, wants, difficulties and opinions about the situation, you're using this GIVE skill
What is Validate
500

A bill involving the private interests and demands of a particular individual

What is Personal Bill of Rights?

500

Ask and respond to questions, Make small talk, Self-disclose skillfully, Dont interrupt, learn things to talk about

What are Conversation Skills? 

500
Name all the DEAR MAN skills!
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce Mindfully, Appear Confident, Negotiate
500
NAME ALL THE GIVE FAST SKILLS
(be) Gentle, (act) Interested, Validate, (use an) Easy manner (be) Fair, (no) Apologies, Stick to Values, (be) truthful
500

True or false: validation is fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice

What is false

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