Dear Gal
this tells us how to meet my wants and needs
What is DEAR GAL?
Active listening looks like...
What is maintaining eye contact? What is not interrupting? What is staying focused?
The two parts of Wise Mind are
What is logical/rational mind and emotional mind?
Self-respect is maintained by using...
What is FAST?
What is an optical illusion and Yanny/Laurel?
Appearing confident looks like...
What is accepting the other person's point of view?
Mindfulness skills are
What is describing the current moment nonjudgmentally?
You can keep relationships by using...
What is GIVE?
Dialectics are
What is accepting all of reality, not just the extremes
example: "You went on a date with Rob behind my back, that made me feel hurt and angry. I want you to stop seeing him."
Three examples of validating statements
Example: "I understand that you're upset." "It makes sense that you reacted that way." "I totally get where you're coming from."
The function of emotions is
What is to communicate to others what we need and want?
GIVE stands for...
Playing devil's advocate means to
What is arguing both my side and also the other side?
"I really appreciate you hearing me out. I think this will make our friendship closer" // explaining the positive effects of what you want
What is a Reinforcing comment?
Validating others helps with
What is maintaining relationships and being empathetic?
If I knew how to identify and manage my emotions, then I would be able to ...
What is use DEAR GAL, GIVE, and FAST skills?
FAST stands for
Fair, Assertive, Stuck to values, Truthful
Consequences of not being dialectical might include
What is more fighting/arguing? What is feeling more upset?
be willing to negotiate
What is Limber thinking?
Mindfulness of others helps with DEARGAL
What is knowing how to describe, reinforce, and have limber thinking?
Radical acceptance will help me in my relationships by
An example of a situation with GIVE or FAST
Example: I chose to maintain self-respect (FAST) by sharing how I felt about an incident in program.
I maintained relationship with staff by not asking them for off-grounds when they were short-staffed.
Staying aware of my connection/relationship helps with dialectics by