DEAR MAN
Eye contact, even tone of voice, and good posture are examples of this component of DEAR MAN.
What is Appearing confident?
This letter in GIVE stands for a skill that encourages you to show acceptance of the other person’s feelings and views, helping to build rapport.
What is Validate? (Repeat for emphasis, as Validate is both emotional and relational).
In the FAST skills, this letter encourages you to hold your ground and not give in to guilt or manipulation when advocating for yourself.
What is Assert?
It made me really upset when my brother broke my Xbox controller. He apologized for it and offered to help pay for a new one. I told him it was alright I'm sure it was an accident and that I am glad he was honest with me.
This is an example of what THINK Skill:
Kindness
This balanced mental state combines both emotional and logical thinking to help individuals make decisions that are grounded in both reason and intuition.
What is Wise Mind?
Focusing on the goal you are trying to reach is an example of ______.
What is staying Mindful
This step in GIVE emphasizes communicating with honesty and sincerity to build trust in your relationships.
What is Interested?
This step in FAST emphasizes sticking to your values and not compromising your integrity, even if it's uncomfortable.
What is Fair?
"She isn't texting me back she must not like me." or "She isnt texting me back, but maybe she is busy right now."
What are Interpretations?
In this state of mind, decisions are driven primarily by feelings, impulses, and intense emotional reactions, often disregarding logic and reason.
What is Emotional Mind?
This step in DEAR MAN encourages you to stand firm in your request, using confidence and persistence while resisting pressure to give in.
What is Assert?
In the GIVE skills, this letter reminds you to maintain an open, accepting, and non-judgmental posture, showing that you genuinely value the other person’s perspective.
What is Gentle?
This FAST skill focuses on avoiding self-destructive behavior like over-apologizing or people-pleasing, in order to maintain your sense of worth and integrity.
What is Truthful?
My parents were angry with me for getting a bad grade. Them nagging me was annoying, but maybe thats just how they were trying to show that they care about me.
This is an example of:
What is thinking from the other persons perspective?
When faced with a heated argument, instead of reacting impulsively or overthinking, you take a deep breath, acknowledge your feelings, and calmly find a solution that respects both your emotions and the facts of the situation.
What is Wise mind?
In the DEAR MAN skill, this step focuses on expressing your feelings and explaining why your request is important without blaming the other person.
What is Express?
This skill reminds you to keep your focus on the present moment during interactions, avoiding distractions like looking at your phone or thinking about other concerns.
What is Easy manner?
This part of FAST involves not apologizing for things you didn’t do wrong, or for simply having boundaries and needs.
What is Stick to your values?
This skill involves understanding and sharing the feelings of the other person, putting yourself in their shoes to better connect and respond with compassion.
What is Have empathy?
"That guy is riding my bumper and I am already 5 miles over the speed limit, I'm going to break check him"
This is an example of the ______ mind.
What is the Emotional mind?
This is the first step in the DEAR MAN skill, where you clearly state what you want or need in the situation, avoiding ambiguity.
What is Describe?
“Since this is your life, you know your situation better than anyone else”
What is validate from GIVE skills?
This letter in FAST encourages you to avoid dishonesty, exaggeration, or acting in ways that aren’t authentic to who you are.
What is Truthful?
"Even though my brother still makes me mad when he takes my controller without asking, at least he is putting it back when he is done with it." This is an example of....
What is Notice?
You parent got a call that your family member was in the hospital and you needed to come right away. You get pulled over. Even after explaining he still gives your parent a ticket for speeding.
The Officer was using the _____ mind
What is the Rational mind?