personality/values
What is one area of your life you can set values for?
Social relationships, Family, Work, School, Recreation, Spirituality Community, Health & wellness
What is an example of NOT actively listening?
Interrupting, Offering unnecessary feedback, Taking sides, Criticizing, Judging
What is 'step 2' in problem solving?
State specific problem
what are the four main healthy indicators in a relationship?
Boundaries, equality, communication, self-esteem
What a reason for anger?
Low self esteem, used to push people away, covers up fear and hurt, used to get what you want or control.
What is the definition of a person's values?
a persons principles or standards of behavior; one's judgement of what's important in life
What can you do to demonstrate active listening?
Nod/Small gestures, Eye contact, Body facing towards them, No distractions
What is an example of a communication shut down phrase?
Dont be ridiculous, It'll cost to much, It wont work here, That's not the way we do things.
What are four main indicators of an unhealthy relationship?
Control, disrespectful, dishonesty, dependence
What are ways to apologize?
1) I’M SORRY FOR...:
2) THIS IS WRONG BECAUSE...:
3) IN THE FUTURE, I WILL...:
4) WILL YOU FORGIVE ME?
How many personality types are there in the enneagram personality test?
9
What's most important of active listening
Understanding the other persons point of view and where they come from
What is one way you can evaluate the process and figure out if it worked for you or not?
Look at as issues, not a his/her problem, Attempt to minimize emotions, Take accountability
How would you describe a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is free from physical, emotional, and sexual violence. Like
respect, good communication, and honesty are important parts of a healthy relationship
How many conflict styles are there?
four
Based on the tests we took in class, how many different personality types can you have?
16
What are examples of supportive feedback
- I heard you say...
- The feelings I heard/saw/sensed were...
- I encourage you to...
- I support you in...
- I can identify because...
How can you state the goal or outcome you want to have?
State in terms of- behaviors needing to increase or decrease, State a specific and reachable outcome, Summarize
How would you describe a unhealthy relationship?
An unhealthy relationship has an imbalance in which one partner tries to exercise control and
power over the other through threats, emotional/verbal abuse, or physical or sexual violence
What are the __ conflict styles?
Aggressive
Passive
Passive-Aggressive
Assertive
In the 16 personality test, what do the 5 combination letters describing your personality stand for?
Extraverted vs Introverted
Intuitive vs Observant
Thinking vs Feeling
Judging vs prospecting
Assertive vs Turbulent
What are characteristics of a good conversationalist
Sincerity, adaptability, courtesy, good listener,
interesting subject, effective team member,
and honesty
What are the 9 steps of problem solving?
1. Explore central problem area
2.State specific problem
3.Identify contributions to the problem
4.State the goal
5.Generate alternate solutions
6.Select alt solution
7.Develop plan to implement solution
8.Implement solution
9.Evaluate the process
1 question to ask about a person in a relationship.
Can you name at least 5 characteristics of this
person that you admire and like?
Is this person glad that you have other friends?
Does this person ask your opinion about things?
Does this person have good relationships with
his/her family and friends?
Does this person talk AND listen?
Do you act like yourself when you are with this
person?
Does this person lose his/her temper easily?
Does this person get angry or hurt if you don’t
pay enough attention to him/her?
Tips for dealing with anger?
Don't jump to conclusions
You win some you lose some
Count to 10 and take deep breathes
Take time by yourself